For those who want to know...RULES at my church!

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Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker

If you have read all the posts here you will see that for us that were abused and wounded our first real experience with church was in an abusive church, so we did not have the knowledge or skills to do as you suggest. Brainwashing is a very subtle thing, you don't know its happening and you don't know that seeds are planted...when you come into the church as I did, with an open heart and completely believing the pastor was the highest authority and there was no questioning him....I had no way of knowing this was not how it should be...I was totally absorbed into my church...it WAS my life, I had nothing else....everything thing we did was about the church...EVERYTHING...holidays, vacations, weekends, our lives were the church...we thought that was how you served God...I am sorry but your really not seeing it....

First of all when I was Roman Catholic they taught that the pastor was infallible.I am sure you can see from the bible that he is not.You have learned a valuable lesson.Not all pentecostal or UPC churches have a cult mentality.I go to a church that has over eight hundred plus members.My pastor hasn't the time to micromanage us.I have to live for God by having a relationship with Jesus first.

You were doing the right thing from what you posted in the above except that you had no other life it seems.So now go out and try again.The bible has not changed and God has not changed.You are still living and breathing.It may not be easy and you may have been duped and maybe you are kicking yourself but there still are good churches and good pastors out there.Leaving a church because it was a nightmare does not mean you have to leave truth.Its time to move on.Sunday is tommorrow how
about getting out that phone book and calling up pastors and asking what they do teach and believe.You will be surprised at how many baptize in Jesus Name and believe you need the Holy Ghost to be saved.You will be surprised at how many believe that there is only one God.Someone may have done you wrong but you don't have to committ spiritual suicide over it.Be proactive.Go out and find a church.Love yourself again.