Originally Posted by dizzyde
Thank you for that Ferd. It is very hard sometimes to read these threads and the pronouncements that people make. The idea seem to be that most who divorce are just bored and decide to throw in the towel and go skipping merrily away.
I realize that there are situations (very rarely) that this may be the case, but in most cases, there is unbelievable agony and pain that is involved. Especially if you are trying to be a Christian, and trying to do the right thing.
And then you have of the well meaning saints in happy marriages trying to tell you what you should do, and what would help, and what they would do.
Divorce is ugly, painful, life altering and anyone who thinks otherwise is deceived. The fact of the matter is that I don't believe it is Gods plan, and I don't believe that is good, natural or right, but I have been through it twice.
In fact, just to throw this out there for all of you scholars, on my second divorce, I walked away from God, for two reasons.
One; I felt that if there was a God, He certainly didn't love or care about me. Otherwise, why would He have let me get into these two horrible marriages, when all I had ever done (even as a teen-ager) was love Him, and want to serve Him.
Secondly; because I believed as some of you do, that there are only certain black and white biblical principals that would allow for a divorce, and my situation did not fall within those parameters. So, at that point, it was either commit the sin of killing myself, or leave the marriage. (which by the way, I had been told to do by several different mental health professionals)
Yes, I prayed. I prayed for years. But, in the end, it overwhelmed me. So, I left. And it took several years of people reaching for me, loving me with the love of Christ, for it to get through to me that if God could forgive me of anything, He really could forgive me for a broken marriage. Disagree if you want to, but I know that the blood of Christ covers me.
Sorry, what I meant to say was simply, Thanks Ferd!!
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