Is divorce a sin if no one was unfaithful?

[Rico]

Originally Posted by Michlow

This is precisely why I have chosen not to have any children. This situation wouldn't be fair to them (or to me for that matter). Though, that is also one of the things that makes it difficult. Because If my situation changed, kids wouldn't be out of the question.

Sister, my guess is that, if things don't eventually change for the better, it's going to end up being either you or him. I hope the Lord works things out for y'all.

[Bro-Larry]

Originally Posted by tamor

How about someone very heavily involved in pornography?

That falls into the catagory of Adultery= the Greek word is "pornia" includes all forms of laciviousness. A continued pattern of that lifestyle. Notice I said "unrepentent".

[Jermyn Davidson]

Originally Posted by 1Corinth2v4

If I ever marry and my wife was unfaithful, I'd happly forgive her, and give her my boot as a departure gift as she's flying out the front door.


I couldn't nor wouldn't touch her after being defiled by another man! She would lose all my trust. I couldn't live with doubt the rest of my life wondering if she's out there being a harlot.

man, true love will make you do some crazy things-- like forgive and move on WITH her by your side.

have you ever cheated on God? did He give you the boot as a nice parting gift on your way to hell?

if we are to love our wives like Christ loves the Church, we ought to be able to forgive our wives, like Christ forgives the Church

and whoa does God ever pour His Grace out on the UPCI!!!

[Bro-Larry]

We can all wax eloquent on an online forum, but until you've been thru it, you really don't know.

Bro Icor2v4: never say never, I've been there.

I've found there's always enough blame to go around.

My dad said, "Son, just stay steady, they always come back. I didn't, but I found out he was still right."

[Blsdbeyondmsure]

Originally Posted by Bro-Larry

We can all wax eloquent on an online forum, but until you've been thru it, you really don't know.

Bro Icor2v4: never say never, I've been there.

I've found there's always enough blame to go around.

My dad said, "Son, just stay steady, they always come back. I didn't, but I found out he was still right."

You are exactly right. Your perspective definitely changes when you go through something like adultery. Of course, most people in their right mind say they'd never stick around. We don't go into marriage thinking we are going to be cheated on. When it happens reality can be much different.

From my experience & observation, time can heal a lot of wounds. Sometimes people make decisions based on current circumstances when time and prayer can change the situation even when it seems that only one person is interested in working on the marriage.

[Joelel]

Originally Posted by Baron1710

Maybe indicating where you have added to the Scripture would be a good idea, rather than just throwing your commentary in the middle of them as if it appears there.

Putting all the scripture together and taking all into consideration my commentary is correct.

[Joelel]

Originally Posted by Ferd

something that keeps coming to my mind is that this subject deals with actual real human beings that are either hurt, or have been hurt quite severly.

Divorce doesnt exist without serious emotional pain.

we arent talking about a clinical set of statistics we are talking about actual people who have spent more nights than they care to remember in gut wrenching agony over a loss as real as death.

i am not willing to discuss divorce without also recognizing that this issue isnt simply a mental exercise.

God bless and heal those who have suffered.

If people were really saved or married to a truly saved person they would not find themselves hurt quite severly.

[Sandra]

Originally Posted by Theresa

What if church folks divorce, without biblical cause...is this a sin for them? Or would it be a sin to remarry?

There is so much divorce in the church anyway, I wondered what your thoughts were on the matter...

If my husband were unfaithful.. I would divorce him and ask forgiveness. I would never put up with what some women do. My sister was married to an unfaithful man for years because she was concerned what people would think.
thank God she got out of it and now has a husband that adores her,loves her children. I say GET OUT and if you feel its a sin, ask forgiveness. He is a forgiving GOD!!!

[Joelel]

Originally Posted by Theresa

who said God brought them together?

honestly...

What the scripture is saying, if God didn't join them,that is,if they were not married in the Lord they are not under the bondage of marrage.They are not married in God's sight so they can divorce and re-marry.Only who God has joined together can't divorce and re-marry except for adultery.

How can God restore a marriage if the marriage partners believe you can remarry and they run into a new relationship?

I believe if a husband and wife cannot live together, they should seperate and remain single and thus GOD has the ability to restore their relationship.... but if they jump into a new relationship.... it's impossible for even God to restore them.. this is why I do not believe in Remarriage.... if you are sitting there lonely and your partner is making a change in their life you will be much more inclined to go home and restore your home......