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Originally Posted by Socialite
Hey, why picking on fetish! Not fair! 
But seriously... Some good stuff said here.
The fact is, as much as we want to protect our kids and keep them from it (and we should), at some point, we release them into the world and their faith must keep them from venturing down that road. Your words were sober when you said "they will eventually see it." That's the sad reality. Hopefully, in that moment, they see the disgusting wretchedness and never forget it that way. What gets people coming back is the chemicals released when they see it -- they remember that sensation later and it begins to stimulate them. But many can testify that it's a battle, with the help of the Lord, we can overcome.
I think Hoovie's idea was a good one as well (private company offering). If it's at a server level, it's harder to get around. If your child is working that hard to get to porn, there's already a heart problem that should be discipled. However, I obviously recognize the difference between a heart problem and a porn addiction (still a heart problem, but now a real bodily addiction).
May God give me the wisdom with this subject with my own children. |
My best hope is that by keeping the topic approachable, by trying to create a good example of wholesome sexuality within marriage, and by pointing out how the secular world twists God's intent into something harmful, they can at least have the tools to make good decisions. I'm less concerned for my girls, even though I know women can become addicted to porn, too. Our son, on the other hand...we may not turn off his internet filters until he's married.
They've had lessons on this in class at church, too, which is fine with me. (Although, in some churches, I would probably want to sit in on the class! Thankfully, we have some teachers who seem to be able to address sex appropriately without bringing prudishness and puritanism to the table.)
The more discussion, the better.
My thoughts on the impact of pornography are not just about the sin aspect of it, although that is a concern, but also about preventing the future relationships of my children from being warped by exposure to pornography. (In the sense of unreasonable expectations of what *real sex* is like, developing fetishes, needing porn to be turned on, having unrealistic ideas about what men and women look like naked, and developing addictions.)
Addiction to pornography negatively affects a person's relationship with God and their relationships with other people.
I realize this thread is about a third party protecting your children from porn, but it concerns me when so many parents give their children unfettered access to the internet. How on earth can someone think that it's okay to give a child unsupervised access???? I really don't get it. We're supposed to protect our children's minds just as we protect their bodies. Gradual exposure to an adult world is necessary; gradual exposure to smut is not.
There are a lot of parents who need to be accountable for what their children access online.
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