Getting Married

[Apprehended]

Why get married? Why not just keep fornicating and forget about all the hassle of marriage?

Just curious.

[AncientPaths]

Originally Posted by Apprehended

Why get married? Why not just keep fornicating and forget about all the hassle of marriage?

Just curious.

Nice. She has been out of church, and prob feels conviction to get married and not do that any longer.

Carry on with your constructive advice.

[MawMaw]

Congratulations on your decision to get married.
After living together for 5 years, I'm sure you know
enought about each other just as any married couple
would. I think y'all will do fine! Just keep the respect
and lines of communication going strong!

[NorCal]

Always put your spouses happiness above your own.
Never act selfishly toward him/her.
Make his/her goals your priority.
As a woman, learn to submit. As a man, learn to make decisions with prayer.

[MissBrattified]

I don't know....let's see....

Don't try to control the other person.
Let them be who they are and love them completely as they are.
Go on regular dates.
Appreciate quirks instead of letting them annoy you.
Respect and serve one another in love.
Bite your tongue more than you speak your mind, and never embarrass or shame your spouse in public.
Don't put your spouse down to your friends or family.
Keep disagreements as private as possible, because the two of you will make up, but friends and family will remember.
Lots of hugs and kisses.
Have a sense of humor.

[OneAccord]

You could just throw the bum out and marry a real man... like me!

Just kidding. I appreciate your honesty and commend you for putting the Lord first in your life, your relationship and your eventual marriage.

[Margies3]

Make a list of as many reasons as you can think of of reasons you love this man. Be detailed with it.

Then when he does something you are angry about, grab that list and read it - over and over and over if you need to. Eventually it will dawn on you that he probably has a whole lot more reasons for you TO love him than he does for you NOT to love him

By the way, just a curiosity question: You said that YOU recently got back in church. What about him? Did he get in too?? That is very important, you know.

[TGBTG]

Originally Posted by Apprehended

Why get married? Why not just keep fornicating and forget about all the hassle of marriage?

Just curious.

This comment is so not needed!!! geez!

She said she's getting back into church and this is all you have to say to her? man, that's just wrong

Thank God Jesus told even the adulterer, go and sin no more. Oh, by the way, Jesus also offered salvation to the woman at the well (she had 5 husbands already).

You should check your pride man

I'm not qualified to give advice as I'm not married...so carry on!

[erika.baldock]

Originally Posted by Margies3

By the way, just a curiosity question: You said that YOU recently got back in church. What about him? Did he get in too?? That is very important, you know.

He's been baptized and gotten the holy ghost but right now he's not in church. His parents are both in the same UPC church as me, we all go together. I actually met my fiance in church 5 years ago on June 5th. It's really only a matter of time before he goes back and he knows it lol.

[erika.baldock]

Thanks for all the information and defense to my past. I am going to feel so much better when we are married and one big happy family with the same last name.