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Originally Posted by LifeGuide
Here is the scenario. A 30 year old volunteer on the youth team falls into an inappropriate consensual relationship with a 19 yr. old college student in your student ministry that lasts approx a year and a half. According to state law, even though the relationship was consensual and the youth was of legal age, the 30 yr. old has abused their authority and committed sexual battery. The legal age thing does not apply. No remorse from the 30 yr. old. The first obvious step was to remove this person from their leadership role. But now, they are upset that they are to stay away from all things YM. They left the church somewhat dramatically 6 months ago. Many in the congregation are unaware of the gravity of their departure. And now they have shown back up, wanting to attend YM events. I believe that Grace and forgiveness have been extended. That being said, this is a line you cannot cross. The wound has been re-opened and the best scenario for everyone involved is for this individual to
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First of all I'm dubious as to the illegality of this act. I can understand the church having a ethical clause that prevents a worker from dating or having a relationship with a college student.,
Colleges have similar ethics rules. But as far as it being against the law? I find that hard to believe
Was it a sexual relationship?
Did the person show back up to church and demand to be part of the YM? Or did this person attend church for a while then ask to be let back in?
If the former, I'd say this person is not the kind of material you want for a youth worker. Grace has nothing to do with it. It's his personality/character type
If the latter and he has shown he wants to serve the Lord and has shown he is there to be a part of the church for a few months,then I could see allowing that person to be a part of the group again
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