me...

Originally Posted by Ronzo

I'm doing my best.

I actually posted what the issue was, but thought better of it... that's got to count for something I guess.

Seriously, this is really hurting me... and not just emotionally or mentally... it's now hurting financially as well.


I really need God's help here...

If I could you any advice Ronzo it be this, keep prviate matter to yourself, I understand the need to and want to share these things with others while we are hurting. If things do change between you and your wife sometimes they do, some may hold these things against her, yes even the godly ones, best to share these deeper hurts and anger with family or a very good friend who know you guys and you trust. Take care keeping you both in prayer.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Ronzo

I've already been counselling with my spiritual mentors and close friends. They're praying for me and keeping me on track emotionally... as much as possible, I guess.

I've gotten my word from the Lord... out of his Book.

"I am with you always, even to the end of the world"

"I will never leave you nor forsake you"

"I am the Lord that heals you"

"I will give you beauty for ashes and the oil of joy for mourning"

Ron, this is beautiful!

I am living proof that you can make it and with those promises from God you will make it and be whole again.

It doesn't take a thing away from what you are going through now, but just knowing that at some point it will be behind you and each one of those awesome scriptures are your rocks right now!

[Trouvere]

Originally Posted by CupCake

If I could you any advice Ronzo it be this, keep prviate matter to yourself, I understand the need to and want to share these things with others while we are hurting. If things do change between you and your wife sometimes they do, some may hold these things against her, yes even the godly ones, best to share these deeper hurts and anger with family or a very good friend who know you guys and you trust. Take care keeping you both in prayer.

That is true.When my marriage partner was backslidden my best friend held things against him that I have since forgiven.It took her though alot longer to do so and I am think it still taints her view of him.It was not any deep horrible things that he did but he treated me in way she deemed hurtful and I learned not to share anything with her nor answer questions that would cause her to
dislike him.I think it caused her to not trust him even to this day and he is a wonderful christian man who fasts and prays and loves God.

[Trouvere]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

Ron, this is beautiful!

I am living proof that you can make it and with those promises from God you will make it and be whole again.

It doesn't take a thing away from what you are going through now, but just knowing that at some point it will be behind you and each one of those awesome scriptures are your rocks right now!

You are a good girl Renda.It may be though that things change for Brother Ron and he does not end up divorced.I have seen it happen.God can get ahold of her heart and things can mend.

Originally Posted by Trouvere

Brother I don't mean to offend you but when I am going through a major trial
I go and sit with my pastor who is my spiritual mentor.He then prays for me and listens and gives me words of counsel.

I never feel condemned even when I am wrong.I do however feel better because its kept private and the whole church and my friends are not involved.Honestly I have some friends who love me so much that they would side with me even when I am wrong.I want truth even if truth hurts.

Rather than respond any further to comments like this, I'll just walk away for now until I am able to respond without being emotional and saying something I may regret since I am not able to respond effectively.

Originally Posted by CupCake

If I could you any advice Ronzo it be this, keep prviate matter to yourself, I understand the need to and want to share these things with others while we are hurting. If things do change between you and your wife sometimes they do, some may hold these things against her, yes even the godly ones, best to share these deeper hurts and anger with family or a very good friend who know you guys and you trust. Take care keeping you both in prayer.

That's why I removed the original comments...

[Trouvere]

Originally Posted by Ronzo

Rather than respond any further to comments like this, I'll just walk away for now until I am able to respond without being emotional and saying something I may regret.

Brother Ron I don't know your situation.You highlighted certain things.I was only speaking from my own perpective.Don't be offended.I am not saying you are the wrong one.This is just a sensitive subject for you.

Originally Posted by Trouvere

This is just a sensitive subject for you.

Very.


Sorry... I don't mean to get emotional or to speak harshly to anyone.

I appreciate the prayers and the words of encouragement.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Trouvere

You are a good girl Renda.It may be though that things change for Brother Ron and he does not end up divorced.I have seen it happen.God can get ahold of her heart and things can mend.

Didn't say it couldn't. Just said that what he is going through will be behind him.

[Coonskinner]

Originally Posted by CupCake

If I could you any advice Ronzo it be this, keep prviate matter to yourself, I understand the need to and want to share these things with others while we are hurting. If things do change between you and your wife sometimes they do, some may hold these things against her, yes even the godly ones, best to share these deeper hurts and anger with family or a very good friend who know you guys and you trust. Take care keeping you both in prayer.

I don't do this very often, but I want to give CupCake a thumbs up on this post.

I have prayed and will continue to pray for you, Brother Ron.

But you are wise to keep the grittier details in a more private setting.