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Originally Posted by ILG
Those of you that voted that I am wrong for not wanting to make her happy......have you never met someone who wants more and more things from you?
When I hurt my back and my supervisor suggested that I move some things around for my benefit, my coworker kept moving them back! She knew that I hurt my back and needed to do this. After about 2 or 3 weeks of her angry with me because her work area was changed, she came in crying and apologized to me. I forgave her but then she continues on with the same type of behavior after my back is better. (The work area has been changed back since I am better...it is just that she continues to try and control things.) I can see she tries but she really does have some control issues. My supervisor likes to "keep the peace" so she gives in to her. She wants me to do the same. One time, when she started moving things on my desk after I had left the room, I told her I needed those things where I had put them and I expected them to stay there.
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Yep. I was thinking that this was more of a control issue ... with HER control over you.
Some folks just feel the need to show others that they can make you do what they want. I have had experiences when you give into some demands, they are not satisfied until you give into
all their demands. I think that there should be some boundaries. Problem is, these types can cross your boundary anytime they wish, but you cannot cross their boundary.
Those types of people are the ones who are being petty, silly and egotistical and as long as you are pleasant to her (I know this is hard to do) you should be your own person unless your supervisor demands you succumb to this ... lady's (
) idiosyncrasies.
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