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Originally Posted by Titus2woman
On this sis we'll just have to agree to disagree  People mature over time. A wonderful 21 year old man is not the man he will be at 30. Some things can wait. Every situation is different. There were things I did not know about Don and over time as situations came up where I needed to know he was honest. There are probably still some things I don't know, Don was a lead guitar player in a popular rock band for several years and lived a very wild life... I don't doubt he'd tell all if I really wanted the details but why would I want that movie playing in my head?
I look at it like this... If Don would leave me now over something I failed to disclose, I'd pack his bag. |
It wouldn't do you any good now, after all these years to have that playing over and over in your head. The time for that would have been before you married, so you could have made an informed choice about you are going to spend the rest of your life with. You and I married a little more mature and a little more wiser on our choices the second time around. You and Don unspokenly chosen to not disclose everything about yourselves. Sometimes people have that kind of relationship.
But neither of you went into the marital relationship totally blind of even a hint of each other's past.
No doubt that we will be judged by some reading this here as committing adultery. I've long ago decided that this adultery question was settled before I married...before God and by both of our pastors, all who know the entire story.
God gave me a wonderful husband and I try to be the best wife I know how to be to him. I guess I'm not doing so bad since we are still together starting our 29th year now.
But apparently the male counterpart in the original question is having trouble dealing with it. So......somebody is feeling either deceived or has a change of mind with the whole matter.
I am thinking that we will surely agree to disagree.
I also realize that what works for me may not have worked for you or for others. But I will always take the approach that honesty is the best way to start out a marriage. If one partner cannot get past a repented sin, then the the two of them should not marry at all. That will save a lot of grief.
Oh and people, long courting and engagements are worth something for your mind and soul.
Thank you MS tituswoman for your viewpoint and allowing me to have my viewpoint without malice on either one of our parts. It is one of those things I really like about you!
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