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Originally Posted by ILG
The church we took over (where the records were not what they were supposed to be) some of the people int he church were told not to talk to other people in that very church and, of course, they were instructed to not speak to people who left after the church split. I thought that was very tragic. My daughter had a hard time deciding if the UPC was a cult or not. Later, she decided that the church we took (pastored) had been led by a cult leader before we arrived and she decided that that church had been a cult but that the UPC is probably not. (I don't believe it is but some of the churches are.)
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The UPC itself is not a cult in that sense of the word but there have been a number of cult like leaders within our ranks.
The fact is, in my opinion, they either started out right and went bad or they were never really the right personality type to be a Pastor.
Some might be called to preach or evangelize but don't have the right leadership skills to Pastor and so when they are thrust into that situation they don't know how to handle having people under them. Rather than love them they manipulate and control them.
It's akin to an abusive marriage where the man tries to keep his wife his "property" and from leaving by controlling her. He has insecurities and fears she will leave and so he tries to keep her when all she really needed was for him to love her and treat her right.
People that stay in that kind of system become themselves rather jaded psychologically.
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