Wisdom and Guidance

[MarkBelosa]

By cooperative, I guess what I'm saying is, he's not doing his part. He knows that he needs help and he knows that I am willing to help him but he's not being true to his commitment - he's often absent/late and he has failed his assessments a couple of times despite the fact that he is an experienced worker in his field (he was even a trainer at some point).

I was his supervisor from our previous job. He once told me, not too long ago, that if it were not for me, he would have committed a crime (robbery or something) because of his situation. He got a nice job when he left our previous company, but he got depressed when his partner left him and things went downhill from there. He lost his job due to excessive absenteeism.


We live in the same apartment (with two other church brothers) and our neighbors have long suspected that he's a drug addict but I really don't have any evidence to prove that. It could be true, though, based on his seeming lack of judgment, his countenance and his money problems. Or it could just be lack of sleep and excessive time on computer games. He could also be hooked on gambling (based on some stuff that he told me long ago)

He hasn't paid his rent since June and I have been lending him money for his daily allowance. He received his pay on the 5th. His next pay is on the 20th. Our agreement was that I'm going to manage his finances until he can manage on his own. We were supposed to study a Life Coaching module and I'm going to teach him stuff so he can earn extra income, etc.

He never talked to me after he got his first pay from his new job. If he had any sense of responsibility left in him, he would have made sure not to spend all his money so he wouldn't have to borrow from me.

I told him last night that I can no longer lend him money. He's free to stay until the 20th (supposedly his next pay day) but after that I can no longer make him stay. I told him that I can still give him advise or lend my ears if he feels depressed or needs counsel but that's it. I reached out to his sister via facebook but I haven't gotten any response. I also told him that whether he decides to pay me back or not, it's up to him.

I hope I am doing the right thing. If not, Lord, forgive me and please show me the way.