To My Porn-Watching Dad, From Your Daughter

[good samaritan]

Was anyone focusing on the daughter who shared her experience at "12-years old" having to process porn on her father's computer? 12 years old!

Can anyone pull up a chair and begin to think of what she had to process when she viewed what her father had been viewing and how that subsequently affected her life. Both scared and curious, how horrible her little heart felt? Did she ever get those images out of her head?

Me and my brother who didn't live together found a porn video as children probably about 12 or less in our mothers closet and watched it. At that age it wasn't devastating, but it was interesting for two boys who knew little about the birds and bees. Again, porn is wrong, but that letter sounded like that girl was blaming all of her future relationship troubles on her father's addiction. It sounds like she don't want to claim her own personal problems.

Do men realize why many women dress like they do? I know there are some women who will dress provocative anyway, but "many" already feel objectified and so they fall into that horrible trap that men have laid out for them - I want eye candy!

Sounds like you are doing the same thing that you say men are doing "blaming it on other people". Men aren't the reason women dress the way they do. I would say the pressure for a women to dress bad is more about competing and being as pretty as the next lady. Ladies ego's sometimes are far bigger than men's. Besides any good man isn't wanting to see some half naked women. I am a critic in my home with my daughter and wife on their clothes.

The problem is that women so often times are dressing to please the wrong men. I grew up a church kid who was taught to be respectful to ladies, but girls didn't show me the time of day. The boys who talked rudely and was smoking in the bathrooms and breaking all the rules seem to really draw them in. I am defending the other side because the letter did so good a job putting a man down that I don't think it needs any help.

The daughter began to notice that many men were like her father. "I learned to distrust and even dislike men for the way they perceived women in this way. As I grew older, I only had this message reinforced by the culture we live in. That beauty is something that can only be achieved if you look like “them”. "

This young woman will never know the struggles of being a man and vice versa. That is why I say cut him some slack. Condemnation doesn't help anyone, but pushes them down. I wonder if this lady ever spent this much time writing something good about her father.