Asheville Bound

[CC1]

Originally Posted by jediwill83

About a week and a half ago we were staying an hour outside of Asheville on the western side.


Inlaws were keeping Abigail and because of the remoteness of the Air BNB *it was waaaaaay up a mountain* we stayed in that weekend and tried to relax and plan.


We had left Katherines car in the back of a walmart parking lot in Asheville so we werent taking two vehicles. Mountain was steep and her engine is under powered. Also some of the Air bnbs dont have more than one available parking place.


During that weekend we could tell that Abigail had just lost heart. We'd communicate over video chat and it was like shed just gave up...just monotone answers while she was being kept by my mil.


We decided to go ahead and go back to Charlotte for now because the back and forth with the air bnb was getting to be too much.


We are going to have to save up about 2500 and then go.


So we head down the mountain with a new plan and strategy and head to pick up Katherines car and it had been towed. Didnt expect the expense so we had to leave it.


We get back home really with the wind knocked out of us but our daughter is beside ourself with excitement.


So when we arrive and need to double up in our remaining vehicle to make the money to get her vehicle out of lockup.


Well my MIL decides to start acting out during all this and it just kicks us in the teeth and during this I got craziness with my own side of the family that is breaking loose as well.


We re adjust with another plan just trying to roll with the punches and yesterday we get the vehicle back after racking up fees for a week.


When we get home and prepare to make up for lost time because with everything that happened for that week our income dropped to a quarter....well my MIL just up and leaves.


But my Jesus is the God who is there...He is the all sufficient all sustaining all providing one and He doesnt need anyone to deliver His blessings and provision. If God has ordained something to be given and supplied even if He has to deliver that blessing with His very own nail scarred hand it will be done because He is faithful!

Sounds like an uneventful time for you guys! When you said you were going to leave her car in lockup I cringed because i know the daily charges for cars twoed can be outrageous.

I hope all calms down and you guys some peace and quiet, rest and steady income.

[jediwill83]

Originally Posted by CC1

Sounds like an uneventful time for you guys! When you said you were going to leave her car in lockup I cringed because i know the daily charges for cars twoed can be outrageous.

I hope all calms down and you guys some peace and quiet, rest and steady income.

No...not peace and quiet. I have MY parents separated and now hers and her dad is basically a *whatever happens must be Gods will* kinda guy.


Both me and Katherine are dealing with some major anxiety that is bad enough to cause physical symptoms .


We started this path under the illusion that there would be stability...we have struggled and had issue after issue. Trying to get out...if we go back to Louisiana it'll be back in the craziness of my family.


We had to leave the car in Asheville because we simply were not prepared for that expense.


We have it now and have been working in shifts but with everything that is going on the instinct is to just cling together as a family...its like we dont know what will happen next.


Looking at TN...we dont know...we are just really tired. This whole MIL thing has put my wife in a bad emotional place. Brought up a lot of bad memories of some bad abuse...she feels like her mother just walked out on our family when we needed her the most...it feels intentional and I gotta say....someone intentionally screwing over my family that knows all the details of how we have struggled...Ive really had to deal with some anger.


We are just really really tired.


Asheville was amazing however. Great people. We ministered to some amazing folks who are genuine and sincere. We'd like to live there if at all possible.

[CC1]

Originally Posted by jediwill83

No...not peace and quiet. I have MY parents separated and now hers and her dad is basically a *whatever happens must be Gods will* kinda guy.


Both me and Katherine are dealing with some major anxiety that is bad enough to cause physical symptoms .


We started this path under the illusion that there would be stability...we have struggled and had issue after issue. Trying to get out...if we go back to Louisiana it'll be back in the craziness of my family.


We had to leave the car in Asheville because we simply were not prepared for that expense.


We have it now and have been working in shifts but with everything that is going on the instinct is to just cling together as a family...its like we dont know what will happen next.


Looking at TN...we dont know...we are just really tired. This whole MIL thing has put my wife in a bad emotional place. Brought up a lot of bad memories of some bad abuse...she feels like her mother just walked out on our family when we needed her the most...it feels intentional and I gotta say....someone intentionally screwing over my family that knows all the details of how we have struggled...Ive really had to deal with some anger.


We are just really really tired.


Asheville was amazing however. Great people. We ministered to some amazing folks who are genuine and sincere. We'd like to live there if at all possible.

Tennessee is great but because it is so great the most popular area, Nashville, has had real estate go crazy so rent is pretty high for homes and apartments. My daughter and son in law moved away 3 years ago and at that time were leasing a nice home for $1300 per month in our bedroom community about 30 minutes outside Nashville. They just moved back and when they checked that house is now renting for $1900 per month!

Of course if you found a job in a rural town rent would be a lot better but if you want to continue to pursue bering Uber or Lyft drivers I would think you would need to be in Memphis (heaven forbid - for the love of God please don't go there!), Nashville, Chattanooga, or Knoxville as they are the most populous areas.

I don't know what your skill set is and if you guys can stand on your feet all day but when they are hiring places like the Amazon distribution centers in TN pay $15 per hour. Another online retailer I know of here is a great place to work but only $13 per hour and only 32 hours per week.

[jfrog]

Originally Posted by CC1

Tennessee is great but because it is so great the most popular area, Nashville, has had real estate go crazy so rent is pretty high for homes and apartments. My daughter and son in law moved away 3 years ago and at that time were leasing a nice home for $1300 per month in our bedroom community about 30 minutes outside Nashville. They just moved back and when they checked that house is now renting for $1900 per month!

Of course if you found a job in a rural town rent would be a lot better but if you want to continue to pursue bering Uber or Lyft drivers I would think you would need to be in Memphis (heaven forbid - for the love of God please don't go there!), Nashville, Chattanooga, or Knoxville as they are the most populous areas.

I don't know what your skill set is and if you guys can stand on your feet all day but when they are hiring places like the Amazon distribution centers in TN pay $15 per hour. Another online retailer I know of here is a great place to work but only $13 per hour and only 32 hours per week.

Asheville is only maybe a little over an hour from Johnson city TN. A little down the road is Kingsport TN. Both fairly low cost of living. Not big enough places for Uber and left though IMO. There are factory jobs around that start out fairly well. There’s also a lot of call center jobs if you prefer something less physically demanding. The call centers range from about 10 to 15 dollars an hour starting and full time and the better ones offer good benefits. Some are collections for at&t. Some roadside assistance. Some that do all things credit card related. There’s some sales ones too. I don’t know as much about the factory jobs pay and benefits.

There are also a lot of apostolic churches in those towns if that’s something that matters to you.

Tennessee doesn’t have a state income tax either which is quite nice. High sales tax though.

[diakonos]

TN is a beautiful state. Nice scenery. For me it ties with Utah- for unrelated reasons. First time I was referred to as a bleeping Mexican was in TN. Also the last time.

[jediwill83]

Originally Posted by diakonos

TN is a beautiful state. Nice scenery. For me it ties with Utah- for unrelated reasons. First time I was referred to as a bleeping Mexican was in TN. Also the last time.

Geez...not the best positive impression I see. Sorry that happened man. Its amazing the bad name some people can give an area just by being a jerk.

[diakonos]

I get it, though. I was in a backwoods type of town. Chattanooga is nice. If I waa to move to TN that is where I would go.

Originally Posted by jediwill83

Geez...not the best positive impression I see. Sorry that happened man. Its amazing the bad name some people can give an area just by being a jerk.

[jediwill83]

Originally Posted by diakonos

I get it, though. I was in a backwoods type of town. Chattanooga is nice. If I waa to move to TN that is where I would go.

When I was in Louisiana I had a tatted Latin gentleman get in my Uber and mistook me for the same...had shaved head and ink and he was drunk...gets in and is like,"You're the only other Latino ive ran into here"


I was like,"Nah bro...Im a Scots/Irish gringo with a bit of Native American tossed in." Lol