Since the heart is only known by God, how can we be SURE?

[Elizabeth]

Originally Posted by HeavenlyOne

Perhaps in many cases, but I honestly just don't care and never have. He puts on a good show for his mother, but I don't buy the lies anymore.

He recently contacted my brother, who was in his area last month, and asked him to stay an extra day (my father is a OTR truck driver) so he could see him and said he wanted to talk to him. My brother was happy and told me that it must be important because dad NEVER calls him. I told him not to hold his breath, but he insisted that it was important for him to call.

The following day, he waited and waited. He called our mom to tell her that he had yet to call and meet, so my mom called him and chewed him out! She asked why he hadn't called his son who was waiting all day, missing out on work and everything. Dad said that he didn't have time and was busy. She said, "When are you going to call and tell him that yourself?"

Well, that phone call never came, and the meeting never happened. Turns out that my grandmother called him to tell him that my brother was coming to town and he should see him when he came home. My father knew that my brother would tell my grandma that he was staying an extra day, so to appease her, he called to show he was attempting a relationship. He's done that from time to time, even with me.

The last time I saw him (besides when my grandfather passed away last year), he told me that he passes by my house all the time and that he'd call so we could meet for lunch often. I was shocked at his offer, and I waited for the call. It never came. I called and left him message after message. His excuse (when I asked him at the funeral why he hadn't called) was that he didn't have that phone anymore. That was also a lie.

He's lied to me my entire life, and I cannot allow myself to get caught up in more hurt. Forgive him? For what, being a jerk? That's his problem, not mine. But I'm done with him.

Have you ever told him how you feel?