What is Protocol at Your Church?

We had a small wedding with 50 guests (most were family) and we would have considered having it even smaller in hindsight. I guess we could have gone $20k, 30k, or 50K in debt but we just aren't into the whole debt thing...

We had several comments that our wedding was refreshing because we kept it simple, yet elegant (we still had a string quartet, etc... we just didn't want a huge ordeal where you spend more time worrying about the details than actually enjoying the wedding). Most weddings I have been to in the last decade are so complex that the bride and groom are wandering around like nervous wrecks trying to make sure everything goes okay. I figured we had enough on our mind and it was OUR day, so why should we spend the whole day making it perfect for other people... we just wanted it to be perfect for us. (I know, we're selfish. lol)