Divorce in the church - Page 6

marthaolivia · #51 12-21-2007, 02:06 PM

Dizzy De:
You always brighten my day. There are times when I am down and find a message from you. God bless you and your beautiful family.

Sister Alvear · #52 12-21-2007, 02:21 PM

I have seen pastors and people mistreat others because of divorce...but that is not the right thing to do...
I heard someone harshly say some cutting remarks about someone when I was in the states...I thought Yeah...you have got kids...what we say has a way of comong home.

dizzyde · #53 12-21-2007, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Daniel Alicea

Deathly terrified .... also ....

There are times I say I'll wait until Danah is in college [8 more years] ....

and there are times I wish I had someone now to share life w/ again.

I totally understand, and not to make it worse but I can definitely say that remarriage with children involved is very tricky. You have to be certain that you can completely trust your partner.

I also understand wishing to have someone to share your life with, it is a very lonely road being a single parent. (aside from just wanting to have a best friend)

I also know that there are a whole lot worse things than being alone.

I'm quite the encourager, aren't I! LOL, no, I hope you know I'm not trying be a downer, just sharing!

dizzyde · #54 12-21-2007, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by marthaolivia

Dizzy De:
You always brighten my day. There are times when I am down and find a message from you. God bless you and your beautiful family.

Likewise, my dear friend.

SDG · #55 12-21-2007, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by dizzyde

I totally understand, and not to make it worse but I can definitely say that remarriage with children involved is very tricky. You have to be certain that you can completely trust your partner.

I also understand wishing to have someone to share your life with, it is a very lonely road being a single parent. (aside from just wanting to have a best friend)

I also know that there are a whole lot worse things than being alone.

I'm quite the encourager, aren't I! LOL, no, I hope you know I'm not trying be a downer, just sharing!

No ... I really appreciate your perspective, DizzyDe.

Other than the slew of other issues that come with becoming a blended family w/ someone else ...

I worry about confusing my kids if I got re-married.

Yet, I want them to value marriage .... Its hard right now for them to do so ... not seeing a model to identify w/.

#56 12-21-2007, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Daniel Alicea

Ditto.

I hope next time ... for me ... it's forever.

I know what you mean bro...

I NEVER want to go through this again.

Thad · #57 12-21-2007, 02:40 PM

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SDG · #58 12-21-2007, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Thad

***WARNING:***

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Nothing to gain.

Nothing to lose.

Nothing to hide.

nahkoe · #59 12-21-2007, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Daniel Alicea

No ... I really appreciate your perspective, DizzyDe.

Other than the slew of other issues that come with becoming a blended family w/ someone else ...

I worry about confusing my kids if I got re-married.

Yet, I want them to value marriage .... Its hard right now for them to do so ... not seeing a model to identify w/.

I have a lot of the same concerns. I'd like them to have a *Christian* marriage to look at. Their daddy is remarried, and they have 2 half siblings already there. I figure no man w/o kids would really be willing to take on 4 more. Oh there's that too..I have FOUR kids. Are there really any men out there who'd take on 4 kids that aren't theirs? But ok, so if there is he probably has kids already. Now we're talking a 2nd ex in the picture (probably) and half siblings and blending a household somehow. Then what if there come along more kids later? Not that I'm really thinking that sounds like a good idea, but things happen. It all makes my head hurt.

That's where I start feeling like a really big failure. I married for life, to a person who married for life, so we could have kids and raise them in an intact home. Each child was conceived with that promise, and my kids still lost out.

SDG · #60 12-21-2007, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by nahkoe

I have a lot of the same concerns. I'd like them to have a *Christian* marriage to look at. Their daddy is remarried, and they have 2 half siblings already there. I figure no man w/o kids would really be willing to take on 4 more. Oh there's that too..I have FOUR kids. Are there really any men out there who'd take on 4 kids that aren't theres? But ok, so if there is he probably has kids already. Now we're talking a 2nd ex in the picture (probably) and half siblings and blending a household somehow. Then what if there come along more kids later? Not that I'm really thinking that sounds like a good idea, but things happen. It all makes my head hurt.

That's where I start feeling like a really big failure. I married for life, to a person who married for life, so we could have kids and raise them in an intact home. Each child was conceived with that promise, and my kids still lost out.

Yep. I can relate. Just a mess.