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Originally Posted by pelathais
That really doesn't apply to a "victim" of self victimization.
But that is encouraging to the many, many people who have been hurt by authoritarian and abusive churches. By denying or even down playing the existence of such things you are actually inviting some to try and "prove" you wrong by rehearsing and re-rehearsing the details of their own suffering.
By taking a mocking tone or even one of mere dismissal you perpetuate the feeling that these folks have that they still need to vent. And you make that venting inevitable.
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Having worked with those that were sexually abused in the past, one of the first things necessary is to get the person out of the victim roll. In doing so, I do not think we downplayed their trauma, but we had to encourage them to move on from it. There is no victory as long as one continually talks about their defeat. Not saying there should not be a time of getting it out, but only with the intent purpose of moving on.
On a side note, I wonder if the Spiritual Abuse site could be liable for a law suit from a disgruntled poster there for practicing without a license. I have not been there and do not know what they do there. Just asking a general question here.
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