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[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker

Wonderful wisdom here from these ladies Rhoni......


Rhoni...what would you tell me if I came to you and said "this man is abusing me"...he is stealing from me, disrespects me, ...what would you tell me to do...what would you say to me...


Hugs Sister...love and blessings

Dear Rhoni,

My ex-husband has abused me, stolen from me, and teaches my children disrespect for me. My son is getting married and the pattern is continuing through this wedding and I am being left out of the plans, and my family has been asked not to attend the rehearsal dinner even though they are all coming from out of state, and I am responsible for half of the cost. I should have stood up long before now, but I am about to break under this strain...what can I do now?

Crying in Texas

Dear Crying,

Wipe the tears from your eyes, straighten up your backbone. It is never too late to set healthy and appropriate boundaries for your children to follow. If you are not invited to showers for the bride or groom, don't send a gift. If your family is not invited to the rehearsal dinner even though you are paying 50% of it...don't go and don't pay. Let your son suffer the consequences of his own behaviors. He will never learn otherwise.

If you allow the abuse to continue and don't stand up for yourself then this pattern will be modelled through your grandchildren. Tell your son you love him and show up a the wedding but otherwise do not put your money into it. Since it is all his fahter's relatives int he wedding..let them pay for the rehearsal dinner and you and your family go and enjoy yourselves somewhere else.

No time like the present to stand tall, be firm, and stop the abuse. Love and respect yourself and others will have no choice but to follow suit.

Blessings, Rhoni