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Originally Posted by OP_Carl
Rhoni,
I'm sorry that my wording was over the top. I hope you know that I always look foward to reading your posts.
It's just that you painted a picture of the divorced man living a liberated carefree life and the divorced woman shackled to a life of single parenthood, drudgery, and poverty. I can not and will not accept this as the only or final page in the book. Unless the man can go underground and acquire forged ID papers, it is very rare that any portion of the criminal justice and legal systems will give him favorable treatment. Half the assets, court fees, child support, maybe alimony on top of all that is not what I call getting off scot-free.
I recognize that there is a real problem of the deadbeat that either has nothing or conceals his post-divorce income. I recognize that men are abusive, and are more prone to adultery.
I hope you recognize that our present-day justice system is now set up to come down on the husband and ex-husband like a ton of bricks.Most of the time, the woman decides the terms and the extent of the man's remaining rights. The woman lawyers coach the women in what to say to the judges so they initiate key limitations or actions.
If the woman calls the police over a few times, perhaps during an argument, then that establishes a pattern of abuse, real or contrived. If she alleges that he might have had inappropriate contact with the children, that activates ANOTHER huge bank of justice machinery. And that's DEFINITELY the side where the man is guilty until proven innocent.
Still friendly, and still enjoy discussing things with you,
Carl
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you obviously have never lived through this. I am sure there are some fathers who are held accountible through the system. I can give you a total different story and many others I know... I know countless single mothers that have to fight for every dime they get and most of their ex's money is hid through/with girlfriends or new wives.
My ex husband spent 1 year in work release center for non child support... our county is considered one of the toughest counties in this State on Child Support... I have proof of every support payment ever paid... less than $4K of child support on three kids over the last six years. The County let him live in a work release facility and pay me only $20 a week while he faithfully supported and put a roof over his girlfriend.. while she sat at home doing nothing.
You really have absolutely no clue... and no, he wasn't underground. The majority of the last six years, he has lived within a mile of me... except for the times he's been incarcerated.
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