Divorce - Adultery Thread

[OP_Carl]

Originally Posted by ForeverBlessed

you obviously have never lived through this. I am sure there are some fathers who are held accountible through the system. I can give you a total different story and many others I know... I know countless single mothers that have to fight for every dime they get and most of their ex's money is hid through/with girlfriends or new wives.

My ex husband spent 1 year in work release center for non child support... our county is considered one of the toughest counties in this State on Child Support... I have proof of every support payment ever paid... less than $4K of child support on three kids over the last six years. The County let him live in a work release facility and pay me only $20 a week while he faithfully supported and put a roof over his girlfriend.. while she sat at home doing nothing.

You really have absolutely no clue... and no, he wasn't underground. The majority of the last six years, he has lived within a mile of me... except for the times he's been incarcerated.

Well I see the point in your case. I mean, the guy got off scot-free, what with only a year in the slammer!

Hey I've said that it doesn't turn out well for the women in every case. The trouble here is that all we have is a few anecdotes, not any data. But I would not call what your ex experienced a lack of favor by the court. He was obviously ordered to pay an onerous amount of child support. When he decided to forfeit compliance, he forfeited freedom because the enforcement was not taken lightly. The justice system did not turn its back on you in your time of need. You are in the unenviable position of experiencing the collision of your expectations with his irresponsibility.

My heart goes out to you. Keep the faith.