Can people forget?

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Michael Phelps

Rhoni,

Since you asked, I'll respond.

Regardless of what you may think, I do not dislike you. I don't agree with you all the time, and I"m not shy to voice my disagreement, but don't confuse disagreement with dislike.

If I could offer one suggestion, it would be this - when people disagree with you, you often respond very harshly and in an insulting manner.

For instance, when I agreed with Rico on another thread, you managed to insult and alienate us both by saying something to the effect of "Have a thought of your own instead of patting idiots on the head".

You're a counselor, you realize that this statement completely shuts down all meaningful dialogue from that point forward.

And, then when people decide to no longer discuss the issue, you assume that you have intimidated them. Not the case.

I think you are a very transparemt woman (not a bad thing!), and I also believe, by your own admission, you are searching for something, and sometimes the combination of restlessness and transparency create the illusion of narcissism.

When people point that out, especially more than one, it might be a good thing to do some soul searching.

And that advice applies to me too, lest you think I"m picking on you!!!!!!!!!!

MP, Absolutely correct analysis!

1. The reason I post so harshly is because I take things personal and turn it inward. I have problems with self -esteem.
2. My favorite word is "Idiot" and I get myself into trouble using it...but sometimes...J/K
3. You are correct...my searching and restlessness does cause me to appear narcissistic, but believe me...I am not.

Anyone tell you that you'd make a good therapist? Well, you would. You do understand though, I can tell others but cannot heal myself...I go to God because I don't have anyone to go to because of what I do...I have peers and it would be a dual relationship. At times, AFF is my only outlet.

Thank you for your honesty.

Blessings, Rhoni