Can people forget? - Page 3

Michael Phelps · #21 08-25-2008, 07:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

There have been 5 years of my posting on these forums;
1. FCF
2. NFCF
3. The island
4. AFF

Many of you have voiced opinions in posts to me that you value my transparency, others think I let my feelings fly too much, and others think I have issues with men and authority figures.

Now is your chance to tell me what you really think...go for it. I am listening.

Blessings, Rhoni

Rhoni,

Since you asked, I'll respond.

Regardless of what you may think, I do not dislike you. I don't agree with you all the time, and I"m not shy to voice my disagreement, but don't confuse disagreement with dislike.

If I could offer one suggestion, it would be this - when people disagree with you, you often respond very harshly and in an insulting manner.

For instance, when I agreed with Rico on another thread, you managed to insult and alienate us both by saying something to the effect of "Have a thought of your own instead of patting idiots on the head".

You're a counselor, you realize that this statement completely shuts down all meaningful dialogue from that point forward.

And, then when people decide to no longer discuss the issue, you assume that you have intimidated them. Not the case.

I think you are a very transparemt woman (not a bad thing!), and I also believe, by your own admission, you are searching for something, and sometimes the combination of restlessness and transparency create the illusion of narcissism.

When people point that out, especially more than one, it might be a good thing to do some soul searching.

And that advice applies to me too, lest you think I"m picking on you!!!!!!!!!!

BrotherEastman · #22 08-25-2008, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

Bro. Eastman,

There is some transference happening...you remind me of some of my past ALJC and UPCI acquaintences...but I don't want to hurt you so I'll try to be more careful. Please forgive me for insulting you...

Blessings, Rhoni

LOL! Well, at least you're one of the few who has the intestinal fortitude to apologize which is more than I could say for most folks around here. Btw, I'm not an "ultra-con", I'm only a conservative with moderate leanings.

Rhoni · #23 08-25-2008, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Michael Phelps

Rhoni,

Since you asked, I'll respond.

Regardless of what you may think, I do not dislike you. I don't agree with you all the time, and I"m not shy to voice my disagreement, but don't confuse disagreement with dislike.

If I could offer one suggestion, it would be this - when people disagree with you, you often respond very harshly and in an insulting manner.

For instance, when I agreed with Rico on another thread, you managed to insult and alienate us both by saying something to the effect of "Have a thought of your own instead of patting idiots on the head".

You're a counselor, you realize that this statement completely shuts down all meaningful dialogue from that point forward.

And, then when people decide to no longer discuss the issue, you assume that you have intimidated them. Not the case.

I think you are a very transparemt woman (not a bad thing!), and I also believe, by your own admission, you are searching for something, and sometimes the combination of restlessness and transparency create the illusion of narcissism.

When people point that out, especially more than one, it might be a good thing to do some soul searching.

And that advice applies to me too, lest you think I"m picking on you!!!!!!!!!!

MP, Absolutely correct analysis!

1. The reason I post so harshly is because I take things personal and turn it inward. I have problems with self -esteem.
2. My favorite word is "Idiot" and I get myself into trouble using it...but sometimes...J/K

3. You are correct...my searching and restlessness does cause me to appear narcissistic, but believe me...I am not.

Anyone tell you that you'd make a good therapist? Well, you would. You do understand though, I can tell others but cannot heal myself...I go to God because I don't have anyone to go to because of what I do...I have peers and it would be a dual relationship. At times, AFF is my only outlet.

Thank you for your honesty.

Blessings, Rhoni

rgcraig · #24 08-25-2008, 07:33 PM

I agree with Bro. Easty that you are one of the best to apologize when you feel you need to!

Advice to Rhoni (not Rhonda) - forget the posse - - they are long gone and there's no one here that is intimated by you.

Rhoni · #25 08-25-2008, 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by BrotherEastman

LOL! Well, at least you're one of the few who has the intestinal fortitude to apologize which is more than I could say for most folks around here. Btw, I'm not an "ultra-con", I'm only a conservative with moderate leanings.

Bro. Eastman,

Sometimes my honesty condemns me...LOL. Anyway, I am a moderate with conservative leanings...my only issue is with 'dress standards' and 'control'/unnecessary and unBiblical control!

Blessings, Rhoni

rgcraig · #26 08-25-2008, 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

MP, Absolutely correct analysis!

1. The reason I post so harshly is because I take things personal and turn it inward. I have problems with self -esteem.
2. My favorite word is "Idiot" and I get myself into trouble using it...but sometimes...J/K

3. You are correct...my searching and restlessness does cause me to appear narcissistic, but believe me...I am not.

Anyone tell you that you'd make a good therapist? Well, you would. You do understand though, I can tell others but cannot heal myself...I go to God because I don't have anyone to go to because of what I do...I have peers and it would be a dual relationship. At times, AFF is my only outlet.

Thank you for your honesty.

Blessings, Rhoni

Rhoni,

This is what some have already been trying to tell you.

It was what some were trying to tell you on the missionary thread too, but you were not in the mood to hear.

Rhoni · #27 08-25-2008, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

I agree with Bro. Easty that you are one of the best to apologize when you feel you need to!

Advice to Rhoni (not Rhonda) - forget the posse - - they are long gone and there's no one here that is intimated by you.

Renda,

The truth is...I don't think anyone left here is intimidated by me...I think I just intimdate ultra-conservative men [posse] that have issues with a woman with brains [not education, but a woman that can think for herself and give an honest opinion]. The posse preferred damsels in distress that needed them. I just needed them to shut up and quit calling my Pastor, the idiots/ I mean conservative cowboys.

Blessings, Rhoni

Rhoni · #28 08-25-2008, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

Rhoni,

This is what some have already been trying to tell you.

It was what some were trying to tell you on the missionary thread too, but you were not in the mood to hear.

Well, you know how Pharoah's heart was hardened until God took his firstborn...well

Michael Phelps · #29 08-25-2008, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

Well, you know how Pharoah's heart was hardened until God took his firstborn...well

Uh oh, you're not pregnant are you???????????

rgcraig · #30 08-25-2008, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

Renda,

The truth is...I don't think anyone left here is intimidated by me...I think I just intimdate ultra-conservative men [posse] that have issues with a woman with brains [not education, but a woman that can think for herself and give an honest opinion]. The posse preferred damsels in distress that needed them. I just needed them to shut up and quit calling my Pastor, the idiots/ I mean conservative cowboys.

Blessings, Rhoni

Careful there.......

I honestly do not think the word is intimidated. They respected your brains and your education - they just didn't appreciate some things about you.