A NEW Year-A NEW promise - Page 5

Cindy · #41 12-23-2008, 11:41 AM

Rhoni, I am so proud to (kind of) know you and call you friend. I will pray for you and hope that God will heal all your hurts and make you whole. He is faithful, and He loves you, and wants you to be Your best in Him.

Rhoni · #42 12-23-2008, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by tstew

Just my two cents:

I believe that good boundaries keep the wrong people out of your life.

Worse boundaries keep the right people out of your life.

The very worst boundaries do nothing but keep you locked in and unable to grow.

I try to create and maintain healthy boundaries, but I refuse to allow past situations to continue to victimize me in my presnt and future by causing me to erect boundaries that keep the right people from getting close...or keep me so locked in bitterness that I am unable to grow and become.

This is true. I do know that those really sensitive to the Spirit of God know when a person is hurting and do their best to be consistent and gentle with such a person and not try to run rough-shod over situations and feelings.

Blessings, Rhoni

Rhoni · #43 12-23-2008, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Cindy

Rhoni, I am so proud to (kind of) know you and call you friend. I will pray for you and hope that God will heal all your hurts and make you whole. He is faithful, and He loves you, and wants you to be Your best in Him.

Thank you. After the holidays, Sis Falla and I would like to come and see youi.

*Hugs*
Rhoni

Blubayou · #44 12-23-2008, 02:50 PM

Rhoni- You are a very strong person - I pray that God gives you grace to move forward, not looking behind- to the hurts but looking toward the victories ahead. Many Blessings!

Cindy · #45 12-23-2008, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

Thank you. After the holidays, Sis Falla and I would like to come and see youi.

*Hugs*
Rhoni

You have no idea how much I would like to see you both.

Sister Alvear · #46 12-23-2008, 05:53 PM

Love you Rhoni and you are always in my prayers.

dizzyde · #47 12-23-2008, 06:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tstew

Just my two cents:

I believe that good boundaries keep the wrong people out of your life.

Worse boundaries keep the right people out of your life.

The very worst boundaries do nothing but keep you locked in and unable to grow.

I try to create and maintain healthy boundaries, but I refuse to allow past situations to continue to victimize me in my presnt and future by causing me to erect boundaries that keep the right people from getting close...or keep me so locked in bitterness that I am unable to grow and become.

I agree with this but it is sometimes a fine line between the good and bad boundaries. Another side to this topic is what else is affected by these boundaries.

Spiritually, I have come to believe that it probably is in my best interest to keep strong boundaries in my life regarding men. I lost my faith in God during my second marriage, and it took a lot of years and a lot work, prayer and ultimately letting go in faith for me to rebuild my walk with God.

I don't know that I would want to subject myself emotionally to the risk that a relationship would bring. I have a good full life, and friends and family who love me, it is not as if I am suffering emotionally. I feel as though spiritually I would probably be better off to just shut that door.

I'm not sure if that made any sense, I was typing while thinking, that doesn't always work out so well...

OneAccord · #48 12-23-2008, 06:25 PM

Well, I'll throw my 2 cents worth in....

What does forgiveness do for a person? Example: A brother wrongs me. I harbor resentment for a while, even though I don't see him any more. Then, I do just what Sis. Rhoni is doing. I resolve to let go of the past and forgive him. But what has that forgiveness done for him?

Nothing. But, it has done wonders for me. Long time grudges, or holding onto past hurts, eats away at me. The offender goes along his merry way, while that hurt holds me back. I free myself from bitterness and anger when I forgive. As Christians, we must forgive, but forgiving isn't putting ourselves into the position of being hurt again. We should learn from past hurts, not hold to them which does nothing but undermines our pursuit of happiness and fulfillment down the road of life. Trust is a difficult thing to be retored. But, if we are ever to be happy again, we have to find the place where we can trust again. How is that possible? By learning to trust ourselves- by learning to trust our own judgement and decision making skills. Read this statement: "I won't ever get my self into this situation again". See? It begins with "I". The situation (whatever it is) isn't the problem. The problem is when we don't trut our own judgement.

But, hey, what do I know...I'm just the heating and air guy.

Scott Hutchinson · #49 12-23-2008, 07:31 PM

Sometimes in life we get hurt in and out of church,but we must give it to Jesus and go on because He can heal us ,a wounded soldier isn't too effective if don't get healed of our hurts the devil can render us uneffective in being fruitful in the work of lifting up Jesus.

Scott Hutchinson · #50 12-23-2008, 07:36 PM

I'm say something I proably should not say publicly,about three months I got a good verbal lashing from someone in church,it stung me deeply and I am still dealing with it,I realized that Jesus cares and if I didn't let Him me with this it could push me over the edge.
No I'm not bitter a person vented one day and I caught in the crosshairs but I am going on with my Christian experience.