A NEW Year-A NEW promise

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Blubayou

Rhoni- You are a very strong person - I pray that God gives you grace to move forward, not looking behind- to the hurts but looking toward the victories ahead. Many Blessings!

Sis. I am not strong it is only a facade. I am tender and easily hurt.

Thank you for the blessings,
Rhoni

[Scott Hutchinson]

Sister Rhoni I say this in brotherly love you can overcome your hurts,by the grace of God you can.

[Sister Alvear]

We all get hurt...we must learn to heal...there may always be a scar but we through the grace of God can keep it from being a never healing sore...

Rhoni, our hurts ma differ...they may come from different circumstances and many different things...however they hurt...and many times hurt real bad...but we know the HEALER of hurts and that is what makes us different from many people...He that paid the price for the healing of our bodies paid the price for the mending of our broken hearts...


Love you...from your friend in Brazil: Sister Alvear

[ChTatum]

Sister, keep this in mind:

Romans 16:17 (KJV)
Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

Sister Rhoni I say this in brotherly love you can overcome your hurts,by the grace of God you can.

It has been my experience that I can easily forgive one hurt and whether a person apologizes or not I can let it go...what is difficult for me to get over is when it is a repetitive offense and I can't get away from it.

Detaching is the best thing so the hurt/offense doesn't control me. Sometimes it is easier to physically leave than to stay and fight or be used/abused.

Blessings, Rhoni

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Sister Alvear

We all get hurt...we must learn to heal...there may always be a scar but we through the grace of God can keep it from being a never healing sore...

Rhoni, our hurts ma differ...they may come from different circumstances and many different things...however they hurt...and many times hurt real bad...but we know the HEALER of hurts and that is what makes us different from many people...He that paid the price for the healing of our bodies paid the price for the mending of our broken hearts...


Love you...from your friend in Brazil: Sister Alvear

Originally Posted by ChTatum

Sister, keep this in mind:

Romans 16:17 (KJV)
Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.

Both of you have good words of wisdom, but what I know as a therapist as well as a former Pastor's wife: many times the one who is whole or trying to get whole is labelled as the "identified patient"/the one causing trouble or division because will not participate in the dysfunction in a family or a church.

Because I am used to the ultra-conservative/rigid Apostolic churches - I gravitate to it and expect a different result. Of course, we all know the definition of 'idiot'. Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.

I need to join a church with no ties to my background where I don't feel myself getting sucked back into believing things will be different. It is comparable to an abused wife going back time and again to her abuser. She is comforted in the fact she knows what to expect. I find no comfort in this pattern any longer and am looking for my way out.

Please pray for me. I need God to stand by me and defend me and comfort me as he directs my path.

Blessings, Rhoni

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

Both of you have good words of wisdom, but what I know as a therapist as well as a former Pastor's wife: many times the one who is whole or trying to get whole is labelled as the "identified patient"/the one causing trouble or division because will not participate in the dysfunction in a family or a church.

Because I am used to the ultra-conservative/rigid Apostolic churches - I gravitate to it and expect a different result. Of course, we all know the definition of 'idiot'. Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.

I need to join a church with no ties to my background where I don't feel myself getting sucked back into believing things will be different. It is comparable to an abused wife going back time and again to her abuser. She is comforted in the fact she knows what to expect. I find no comfort in this pattern any longer and am looking for my way out.

Please pray for me. I need God to stand by me and defend me and comfort me as he directs my path.

Blessings, Rhoni

Rhoni,

I completely understand what you are saying here. Sometimes it's easy to forget what you are dealing with and expect something different this time. Then, when it isn't, it's a reminder. Anyway, I wish you well. I hope you didn't take offense at my first comment. I really meant it as a conversation piece. I don't think we can just up and decide for things to be altogether different. But I meant the discussion sincerely. Maybe this forum wasn't conducive to the discussion and if you were taken aback, I apologize.

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by ILG

Rhoni,

I completely understand what you are saying here. Sometimes it's easy to forget what you are dealing with and expect something different this time. Then, when it isn't, it's a reminder. Anyway, I wish you well. I hope you didn't take offense at my first comment. I really meant it as a conversation piece. I don't think we can just up and decide for things to be altogether different. But I meant the discussion sincerely. Maybe this forum wasn't conducive to the discussion and if you were taken aback, I apologize.

ILG,
No problem, I know things don't just happen but a resolution of any problem starts with making a decision.

I really didn't start this thread for a major discussion venue but as a public confession of intent to begin my process. I was put on the spot last night and have kept my integrity and refused to get into and discussion of past issues.

Have a blessed day,
Rhoni