Quite a number of people working through adultery issues! Sometimes I think the unspoken things people are working through make them feel very alone when it is not as uncommon as it seems. I think in the church people are so afraid to speak of what they are battling.
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Quite a number of people working through adultery issues! Sometimes I think the unspoken things people are working through make them feel very alone when it is not as uncommon as it seems. I think in the church people are so afraid to speak of what they are battling.
I think people that are working through these type of issues feel as if no one would understand and I'm sure they feel alone. I haven't had to work through adultery issues but other issues that could have the same effect. Most people expect church folks to be above some of these issues and therefore, it is easier to keep things to oneself (in ones mind anyway). I think it is more damaging not to reach our for help.
I think that there might be a bit of regret and embarassment when the problem becomes vocalized. I have known people with issues they are working in the relationship, but the way to work it out was to not even talk about it. Like they would never talk about it. So they figured don't talk about it then it never happened. No one is perfect and anyone on this board could fall into something.
MrsMcD, you are right when you say that non churched people think that church people to be above these issues...you are very wise. I believe that if I went through something like this I would be more embarassed than anything.
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Also someone might think that one thing is considered cheating and another thing isn't. Like the Bill Clinton thing...what is the meaning of the word "is"? Someone might feel talking to a person of the opposite sex is cheating and another might think that you haven't cheated until it becomes a fully sexual thing.
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"If we don't learn to live together we're gonna die alone"
Jack Shephard.
Also someone might think that one thing is considered cheating and another thing isn't. Like the Bill Clinton thing...what is the meaning of the word "is"? Someone might feel talking to a person of the opposite sex is cheating and another might think that you haven't cheated until it becomes a fully sexual thing.
Talking to a member of the opposite sex is not cheating, plain and simple although you could probably be stoned as a woman in a muslim country for doing so. I think Bill Clinton cheated.
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Those who say it cannot be done should not interrupt the people doing it. ~Chinese Proverb
When I was young and clever, I wanted to change the world. Now that I am older and wiser, I strive to change myself. ~
Talking to a member of the opposite sex is not cheating, plain and simple although you could probably be stoned as a woman in a muslim country for doing so. I think Bill Clinton cheated.
Ditto!
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"If we don't learn to live together we're gonna die alone"
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