You said, This is TYPICAL of those who are in works-based churches (churches who hold to standards)...then continued on to say that their relationship is all askew and possibly not "in" Christ....broad-brushing?? How about taking the whole paint can and dumping it on me?
And dude, their are folks who never stepped foot in a standard church, messing around with junk, cussing and such, what about them? I know PLENTY who come out of UPC churches who act normal and don't write naughty words down.