Pregnancy

[BadgerBoysMom]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

I think the churches who do that are few and far between. I know this has happened in several churches (including ones I attended) that I'm aware of, and normally, while the pregnancy is not celebrated, the church is usually supportive of the woman or the couple. Especially if they're very young.
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OK - Confession time! LOL

More than 12 yrs ago I landed myself at church pregnant. The story is way too long to get into here but I was new at this church. I had previously been in another (UPC) church and "backslid" for over a year and then "got back in church". A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant. Due to circumstances and for the safety of me and my child I moved far away (to the area in which I now live and go to church).

Anyhow, I was new, young and single as far as everyone knew. I was so badly hurt emotionally by the situation I just come from I didn't open up right away to anyone. I was SCARED TO DEATH of the judgement I was facing (at least in my mind). I knew I would be "showing" soon and would have to do some explaining! LOL

Very few people know the details of how I ended up in the situation but when every one found out I was pregnant they rallied around me and really stood by me. There were a few busy bodies and nosey gossips but I was able to work through it. Now they are gone and I am still there (go figure)

Ultimately what happened - I met and married my current (wonderful) husband and between us we have 3 kids. Had I married the father of my child.... it would NOT have ended well.... In my case marrying him was NOT the right thing to do. It would have been the wrong thing to do.

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by BadgerBoysMom

OK - Confession time! LOL

More than 12 yrs ago I landed myself at church pregnant. The story is way too long to get into here but I was new at this church. I had previously been in another (UPC) church and "backslid" for over a year and then "got back in church". A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant. Due to circumstances and for the safety of me and my child I moved far away (to the area in which I now live and go to church).

Anyhow, I was new, young and single as far as everyone knew. I was so badly hurt emotionally by the situation I just come from I didn't open up right away to anyone. I was SCARED TO DEATH of the judgement I was facing (at least in my mind). I knew I would be "showing" soon and would have to do some explaining! LOL

Very few people know the details of how I ended up in the situation but when every one found out I was pregnant they rallied around me and really stood by me. There were a few busy bodies and nosey gossips but I was able to work through it. Now they are gone and I am still there (go figure)

Ultimately what happened - I met and married my current (wonderful) husband and between us we have 3 kids. Had I married the father of my child.... it would NOT have ended well.... In my case marrying him was NOT the right thing to do. It would have been the wrong thing to do.

What a great story! Thanks for sharing that.

I have a...well, we'll just say "female relative"...lol, who got pregnant by a real jerk. He bailed on her the moment he found out she was pregnant, but even if he hadn't--he was not marrying material.

She met her husband shortly before her son was born, he fell in love with her, supported her through the birth of her son, and then married her and adopted the baby. They are still together, happy, and have a second son.

So, I agree, marriage isn't always the answer. Especially if one or both parties aren't mature enough to handle it, or have no interest in it, really.

[BadgerBoysMom]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

She met her husband shortly before her son was born, he fell in love with her, supported her through the birth of her son, and then married her and adopted the baby. They are still together, happy, and have a second son.

My hubby adopted my (now "our") son also. We made a big deal of it. And we have always been honest with him about it. I was terrified that one day someone else would tell him he was adopted and I did not want that to happen so, as early as I could, I started talking to him about it.

He may at some time want to know more but for now has not brought it up too much.

[Fiyahstarter]

Originally Posted by Timmy

I've known of babies born several months "premature", but weigh in at like 8 lbs. Isn't that odd?

It's those pre-natal vitamins... they make BIG babies. lol

[jaxfam6]

My momma always said that it seems like the first child can come anytime in a marriage but everyone after that takes nine months. =)

[Fiyahstarter]

Originally Posted by jaxfam6

My momma always said that it seems like the first child can come anytime in a marriage but everyone after that takes nine months. =)