Weird, nobody should listen to someone negative. There is a difference between faith and fear and many people that are negative about things are really living in fear.
I am NOT saying that someone that is positive and speaks out of faith doesn't have wisdom about a situation that is not something you want to hear. ;-) I am talking about people who are just negative about certain things or life in general.
If I wanted advice about getting married or how to live the single life, I would seek out happily married people or faith filled singles and ask how they do it. Listen to those that have success it what you are seeking.
Weird, nobody should listen to someone negative. There is a difference between faith and fear and many people that are negative about things are really living in fear.
I am NOT saying that someone that is positive and speaks out of faith doesn't have wisdom about a situation that is not something you want to hear. ;-) I am talking about people who are just negative about certain things or life in general.
If I wanted advice about getting married or how to live the single life, I would seek out happily married people or faith filled singles and ask how they do it. Listen to those that have success it what you are seeking.
After speaking with a friend who has been married since she was 19 years old, I became extremly frustrated at the fact that she is trying to discourage singles from getting married. She has been married for 14 years and has had five children. She has had very discouraging attitudes toward a young sister age 27 who is engaged and is telling her that she should be extra careful to get married. Now, I agree that we should give prayer and supplication to something like marriage, but I do feel that people who have been married as long as she has and got married at the age she did, should not be telling any single people how to behave in the single life.
I think her experience would better serve women who are married instead of single women. She knows nothing about being saved and single because she really hasn't done it. She got married as soon as she turned nineteen years old.
I personally believe that married people need to be sure they don't overstep their boundaries in providing advice about something they don't know anything about. If you have been married 20 years, I just can't listen to you about being single.
Now, I feel better!
maybe instead of married people being the problem, you just have one lady friend who got married at 19 who gives bad advice.
why do I have to be lumped in with her?
I give great advice to prosepective couples.
To the men I tell them they only need to remember 2 things to have a successful marrigage. "Yes Dear" and "I am sorry"
to the ladies, I just tell them they only need to remember 1 thing: Just let him think he is in chage....
Dont blame me for your friend who got married too young and had too many kids.
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My message to singles is (whenever I am given opportunity to talk to someone on this subject) God wants to bless you with a mate, he just wants you to have the right one.
I don't think that singles should be discouraged from marrying. Just encouraged to choose someone who loves God as much as they do.
A husband and wife team for Jesus is a powerful thing!
But in the end, it is really up for the person, who they are marrying their family and the pastor. What other well meaning people have to say, imo doesn't mean as much.
It bothered me when I was single, that even though I had a college degree and a job and lived on my own, that I was supposed to be part of the youth group since I wasn't married. Um, excuse me, I don't have a lot in common with them.
And yeah, the woman referenced in the original post is probably unhappy that she got married as soon as she did. Nothing wrong with instructing someone to be careful and seek God before marrying, but just discouraging it seems like she wants to spread negativity.
Sounds like this sister may not be so happy in her marriage?
My advice is that a couple, once married, should never go to bed mad at each other. May lovely sweet wife and I have been married for 27 years and attribute it to following this rule. We have never gone to bed mad but we stayed awake for 6 weeks once.....
Seriously, we have been married for 27 years and I was 19 at the time of our wedding. We give great advice on marriage, but we can't remember what it was like to be single anymore, so that we leave up to others......
Don't discount the sage advice of old married couples!
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Sounds like this sister may not be so happy in her marriage?
My advice is that a couple, once married, should never go to bed mad at each other. May lovely sweet wife and I have been married for 27 years and attribute it to following this rule. We have never gone to bed mad but we stayed awake for 6 weeks once.....
Seriously, we have been married for 27 years and I was 19 at the time of our wedding. We give great advice on marriage, but we can't remember what it was like to be single anymore, so that we leave up to others......
Don't discount the sage advice of old married couples!
I got married at 19 as well, going on 17 years. I don't know if I have great advice for people but I have advice. One of the things I have seen that astounds me is the way some people talk about their spouses to others. If My wife and I have a problem we work it out, we don't run to our friends and talk about the other one. My wife is my greatest advocate, I wouldn't be where I am without her.
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Well I think the title of this thread is obiviously false. Because there are many people who are married for years and years that give great advice!
As far as the counsel the woman gave your friend- I dont think it had anything to do with her being married young but more of a reflection of her marriage as Rev DWW said.
You just have to be careful who you listen to for advice, but as far as selecting someone I think you have to be wise and get advice from parents and spiritual leaders.
One of the things I have seen that astounds me is the way some people talk about their spouses to others. If My wife and I have a problem we work it out, we don't run to our friends and talk about the other one. My wife is my greatest advocate, I wouldn't be where I am without her.
That's goooood advice right there!!!!!
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