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Re: Can church be bad for your health?
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Originally Posted by Aquila
Great point. I've noticed that abusive religion will typically blame the victim. The issue is that a leader must realize, it doens't matter who's right or wrong... the party who experienced or perceives to have experienced a serious wrong is living a reality. A wise pastor once told me, "Chris, perception is reality. It's real to them. You have to start there." I think a lot of abuse and hurt is perpetuated with the "Get over it.", or the, "Maybe if YOU weren't so sensitive.", or, "You're not in the Spirit.", kind of arguments. Even if a person wasn't truly wronged, they perceive it. You have to address that and mediate the problem for all parties invovled.
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Exactly. Perception is reality. Even when I allow for the fact that my perception isn't the whole story, and I really am rational enough to allow for that and unintentional misunderstandings, I have still been hurt. Nothing is going to change that, and I'm left to deal with the feelings and consequences.
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