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12-23-2008, 10:39 AM
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Re: A NEW Year-A NEW promise
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Most growth starts with a choice.
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Of course it does. A choice and a desire. However, one doesn't just choose to have a growth spurt.
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12-23-2008, 10:40 AM
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Re: A NEW Year-A NEW promise
If we are discussing, then my two cents is that at some point you do have to forget along with the forgiveness.
What D4T is saying is true - what you go through changes how you react in the future and makes you see things with the wisdom of what you have gone through, but........you still have to let things go.
Not rehashing the things will help move past the hurts.
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12-23-2008, 10:42 AM
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Re: A NEW Year-A NEW promise
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If we are discussing, then my two cents is that at some point you do have to forget along with the forgiveness.
What D4T is saying is true - what you go through changes how you react in the future and makes you see things with the wisdom of what you have gone through, but........you still have to let things go.
Not rehashing the things will help move past the hurts.
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I agree.
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12-23-2008, 10:42 AM
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Re: A NEW Year-A NEW promise
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If we are discussing, then my two cents is that at some point you do have to forget along with the forgiveness.
What D4T is saying is true - what you go through changes how you react in the future and makes you see things with the wisdom of what you have gone through, but........you still have to let things go.
Not rehashing the things will help move past the hurts.
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Right, Renda - you can set a boundary as a way of "experienced wisdom", but if in that boundary you are still hanging on because of past pain - that's when it stops working for you.
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12-23-2008, 10:44 AM
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Re: A NEW Year-A NEW promise
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Right, Renda - you can set a boundary as a way of "experienced wisdom", but if in that boundary you are still hanging on because of past pain - that's when it stops working for you.
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This is an unhealthy boundary that takes energy to maintain. True boundaries are pretty natural but I think they are grown into rather than decided on the spot based on a theory of healing. True healing doesn't need a theory framework. It just is.
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12-23-2008, 10:45 AM
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Re: A NEW Year-A NEW promise
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This is an unhealthy boundary that takes energy to maintain. True boundaries are pretty natural but I think they are grown into rather than decided on the spot based on a theory of healing. True healing doesn't need a theory framework. It just is.
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Healing is a frame of mind.
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12-23-2008, 10:47 AM
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Re: A NEW Year-A NEW promise
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Right, Renda - you can set a boundary as a way of "experienced wisdom", but if in that boundary you are still hanging on because of past pain - that's when it stops working for you.
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Indeed...
I have boundaries in my life towards people who have hurt me before and those boundaries are there for their benefit as well as mine.
I have learned how close i can be and still maintain the proper respect and good friendship.
Any closer and it just won't work.
I know the place where they change and I have a fence around that place so we can be friends.
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Re: A NEW Year-A NEW promise
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This is an unhealthy boundary that takes energy to maintain. True boundaries are pretty natural but I think they are grown into rather than decided on the spot based on a theory of healing. True healing doesn't need a theory framework. It just is.
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Sure, I agree. If we ran a statistic - I think many would fall on the side of the "energy to maintain". JMO! 
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12-23-2008, 10:48 AM
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Re: A NEW Year-A NEW promise
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Healing is a frame of mind.
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Yes, it is a renewal of the mind. Because an old framework of mind doesn't bring healing. In my opinion, one first chooses to heal by being open to new ideas. Then, the renewal of the mind, or the change of thinking is what causes the healing to take place and actually be real. Proclaiming healing doesn't make it so. One can proclaim healing and it may or may not be actual.
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12-23-2008, 10:49 AM
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Re: A NEW Year-A NEW promise
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Si'.... very much the same.
When I make the decision to forgive people it changes who I am... but it does nothing to change who they are.
I can forgive a person without losing the wisdom that having dealt with that person gave me.
If it was a one time faux pas... that is one thing. But some people will demonstrate to you beyond the shadow of a doubt that they are what they are and that never changes.
Mark them and avoid them....
But let it go as far as your own hurts go.
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Your protecting against ONE thing or individual.... I may be wrong but her post is in context to life as a whole... I would not expect her to fall to the same individual. But if she keeps boundries up to people in her future because of ONE in her past then in reality she is accomplishing nothing.
If I get stuck in a mudhole, I obviously would miss that one in the future, but I'm not gonna slow down just because there maybe more.
As grandpa once said; "ain't no shame in gettin stuck, just don't get stuck in the same hole twice"
Either way, I wish you well in your new journey Rhoni, I will pray for HIS strength to abide with you.
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