Rhoni I love your posts and am glad you do! Continue on no matter what some say we love you around here!
Me on the other hand, I am going to bed early and discontinuing my posting for the night.. I am having cold chills (this IS NOT the way this is supposed to work its supposed to be opposite LOL) and am so tired I cant see straight... think I did too much today...
I think you post what you feel when you feel it. Usually that turns out okay. However, sometimes that might not be a good thing and you end up regretting what you posted and ask for it to be deleted.
Like you said on the other thread you do post with your feelings and that's why some give you a hard time perhaps. Is it Rhoni or Rhonda - lol!
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I think you post what you feel when you feel it. Usually that turns out okay. However, sometimes that might not be a good thing and you end up regretting what you posted and ask for it to be deleted.
Like you said on the other thread you do post with your feelings and that's why some give you a hard time perhaps. Is it Rhoni or Rhonda - lol!
Rhonda gets her feeling hurt and would never say the things Rhoni says
There have been 5 years of my posting on these forums;
1. FCF
2. NFCF
3. The island
4. AFF
Many of you have voiced opinions in posts to me that you value my transparency, others think I let my feelings fly too much, and others think I have issues with men and authority figures.
Now is your chance to tell me what you really think...go for it. I am listening.
Blessings, Rhoni
Rhoni,
Since you asked, I'll respond.
Regardless of what you may think, I do not dislike you. I don't agree with you all the time, and I"m not shy to voice my disagreement, but don't confuse disagreement with dislike.
If I could offer one suggestion, it would be this - when people disagree with you, you often respond very harshly and in an insulting manner.
For instance, when I agreed with Rico on another thread, you managed to insult and alienate us both by saying something to the effect of "Have a thought of your own instead of patting idiots on the head".
You're a counselor, you realize that this statement completely shuts down all meaningful dialogue from that point forward.
And, then when people decide to no longer discuss the issue, you assume that you have intimidated them. Not the case.
I think you are a very transparemt woman (not a bad thing!), and I also believe, by your own admission, you are searching for something, and sometimes the combination of restlessness and transparency create the illusion of narcissism.
When people point that out, especially more than one, it might be a good thing to do some soul searching.
And that advice applies to me too, lest you think I"m picking on you!!!!!!!!!!
__________________ "Many people view their relationship with God like a "color by number" picture. It's easier to let someone else define the boundaries, tell them which blanks to fill in, and what color to use than it is for them to take a blank canvas and seek inspiration from the Source in order to paint their own masterpiece"
Regardless of what you may think, I do not dislike you. I don't agree with you all the time, and I"m not shy to voice my disagreement, but don't confuse disagreement with dislike.
If I could offer one suggestion, it would be this - when people disagree with you, you often respond very harshly and in an insulting manner.
For instance, when I agreed with Rico on another thread, you managed to insult and alienate us both by saying something to the effect of "Have a thought of your own instead of patting idiots on the head".
You're a counselor, you realize that this statement completely shuts down all meaningful dialogue from that point forward.
And, then when people decide to no longer discuss the issue, you assume that you have intimidated them. Not the case.
I think you are a very transparemt woman (not a bad thing!), and I also believe, by your own admission, you are searching for something, and sometimes the combination of restlessness and transparency create the illusion of narcissism.
When people point that out, especially more than one, it might be a good thing to do some soul searching.
And that advice applies to me too, lest you think I"m picking on you!!!!!!!!!!
MP, Absolutely correct analysis!
1. The reason I post so harshly is because I take things personal and turn it inward. I have problems with self -esteem.
2. My favorite word is "Idiot" and I get myself into trouble using it...but sometimes...J/K
3. You are correct...my searching and restlessness does cause me to appear narcissistic, but believe me...I am not.
Anyone tell you that you'd make a good therapist? Well, you would. You do understand though, I can tell others but cannot heal myself...I go to God because I don't have anyone to go to because of what I do...I have peers and it would be a dual relationship. At times, AFF is my only outlet.
1. The reason I post so harshly is because I take things personal and turn it inward. I have problems with self -esteem.
2. My favorite word is "Idiot" and I get myself into trouble using it...but sometimes...J/K
3. You are correct...my searching and restlessness does cause me to appear narcissistic, but believe me...I am not.
Anyone tell you that you'd make a good therapist? Well, you would. You do understand though, I can tell others but cannot heal myself...I go to God because I don't have anyone to go to because of what I do...I have peers and it would be a dual relationship. At times, AFF is my only outlet.
Thank you for your honesty.
Blessings, Rhoni
Rhoni,
This is what some have already been trying to tell you.
It was what some were trying to tell you on the missionary thread too, but you were not in the mood to hear.
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Master of Science in Applied Disgruntled Religious Theorist Wrangling
PhD in Petulant Tantrum Quelling
Dean of the School of Hard Knocks
Well, you know how Pharoah's heart was hardened until God took his firstborn...well
Uh oh, you're not pregnant are you???????????
__________________ "Many people view their relationship with God like a "color by number" picture. It's easier to let someone else define the boundaries, tell them which blanks to fill in, and what color to use than it is for them to take a blank canvas and seek inspiration from the Source in order to paint their own masterpiece"
1. The reason I post so harshly is because I take things personal and turn it inward. I have problems with self -esteem.
2. My favorite word is "Idiot" and I get myself into trouble using it...but sometimes...J/K
3. You are correct...my searching and restlessness does cause me to appear narcissistic, but believe me...I am not.
Anyone tell you that you'd make a good therapist? Well, you would. You do understand though, I can tell others but cannot heal myself...I go to God because I don't have anyone to go to because of what I do...I have peers and it would be a dual relationship. At times, AFF is my only outlet.
Thank you for your honesty.
Blessings, Rhoni
Well, there ya go. Self-esteem is of the devil, you know.
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I've gone and done it now! I'm on Facebook!!!
Re: Can people forget?
Rhonda gets her feeling hurt and would never say the things Rhoni says
Re: Can people forget?
Hybrid Mode
