I love fb most of the time. Fb doesn't replace a social life for me; it adds to it. I still have the same contact I always did with local friends. On the plus side, I have more contact with distant friends and family than I used to. I do get to see more details of my friends' lives, because of all the pictures posted online. How often do you go to a friends' house and get to set down and peruse their photo albums and really see everything they've been up to or what their kids have been doing lately? Fb makes it easy to keep up in between visits and phone calls.
Fb is best when you learn how to use the privacy settings to limit unwanted *intrusion* and even how to limit what people can see from within your friends list. I have photo albums, for instance, that only my family can see. If I post something controversial, I'm likely to change the audience to a custom list of people I want involved in the conversation, and everyone else is excluded--even if they are on my friends' list.
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--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
I'm on it a lot. You can filter out what people see and what you see of their posts using lists. I have connected with people I thought I'd never see again. Phenomenon of this generation, I guess. Our kids will have always had it around.
I am bad with sending things in the mail, or sending photos to people, so it's been a great resource to share our lives with family. As with anything, it can be overused, but just use it in moderation. Those that are worried about temptations or not trusting their spouse have underlying issues that need to be addressed anyway, in my opinion.
Big brother? They already know everything. Don't kid yourself.
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A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds... - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Bout a week ago I did something that I had been considering doing for some time now...I disabled my Facebook account.My wife disabled hers and I did as soon as I found out.I had been bothered for a while about how Facebook had turned friendship from an active experience into a voyeuristic passive thing where people feel close but don't have to invest into an actual relationship.The second reason was the need for healthy boundaries.My mother is a very sweet person....but she's got some boundary issues....she's the type that will just unload a whole litany of personal things on you without even really knowing you..well my wife wasn't really prepared for that so it kinda freaked her out understandably.So yeah...there were some boundaries that are needed...the only thing is my mom is a bad facebook addict and she pretends that facebook is the only method of contact so since we deleted our accounts she's been contacting friends trying to "check up on us"...its really gotten annoying because we haven't cut all contact by any means just facebook but from her reaction you would think we changed our names and number and moved to some undisclosed location in the dead of night...anyways...anyone else have similar experiances on facebook?
I think long and deep before I add someone to facebook. I feel bad deleting someone, and I'm not one to cause drama. I have two cousins who get kind of messy in their posts, one I could never delete (we grew up together practically as brother and sister) and the other one I have a feeling if I were to delete her, she'd call my phone and blow up on me. So I just silently imagine their posts don't exist when I see their name. Everyone else on my friend list (I think no more than 50) doesn't saying anything they wouldn't say face to face. However, if I would have facebook drama every other post, I don't think I'd be on facebook very long either.
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1 John 4:8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.
I think long and deep before I add someone to facebook. I feel bad deleting someone, and I'm not one to cause drama. I have two cousins who get kind of messy in their posts, one I could never delete (we grew up together practically as brother and sister) and the other one I have a feeling if I were to delete her, she'd call my phone and blow up on me. So I just silently imagine their posts don't exist when I see their name. Everyone else on my friend list (I think no more than 50) doesn't saying anything they wouldn't say face to face. However, if I would have facebook drama every other post, I don't think I'd be on facebook very long either.
You can always choose to see just the most important posts of a given person which in most cases completely removes them from your wall.
I love fb most of the time. Fb doesn't replace a social life for me; it adds to it. I still have the same contact I always did with local friends. On the plus side, I have more contact with distant friends and family than I used to. I do get to see more details of my friends' lives, because of all the pictures posted online. How often do you go to a friends' house and get to set down and peruse their photo albums and really see everything they've been up to or what their kids have been doing lately? Fb makes it easy to keep up in between visits and phone calls.
Fb is best when you learn how to use the privacy settings to limit unwanted *intrusion* and even how to limit what people can see from within your friends list. I have photo albums, for instance, that only my family can see. If I post something controversial, I'm likely to change the audience to a custom list of people I want involved in the conversation, and everyone else is excluded--even if they are on my friends' list.
Precisely!
I've been enjoying FB. Contact with friends from the last 45 years.
My rule.........if I could not invite you to my home or you wouldn't invite me to yours__________not actually a friend.
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(Common sense is not so common.)
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Common sense is genius dressed in working clothes.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.
William James
I have thought sometimes about joining facebook. I guess seeing power in the hands of the wrong people has made me skittish. I think about how Hitler would have used facebook. And you know that the powers that be in our government aren't very nice. Okay, I sound conspiratorial. Maybe I should just join sometime and enjoy what it has to offer. We'll see.
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