just in need of some different opinions and advice

[StillStanding]

Originally Posted by The Lemon

The leadership part of this situation is serious on a number of levels. If you feel called by the Lord to do anything in the way of leadership, then there can be serious emotional and spiritual ramifications to a decision like this. If you stay, I can see the part of the hypocrisy, and while you will be able to use your talents, you will also feel uncomfortable and maybe even feel like a liar on some levels. At the same time, finding something "new" is equally as challenging, and the truth is there will at some point be a real pull to just abandon the "call" altogether.

Of course your marriage is the most important thing, and really is your first "ministry". No body can give you the answer, and I'm sure you know that. What is important is preserving your integrity and continuing to build your family. You will recieve alot of advice here, but the best thing I can offer is my prayers....I have been where you are..only in reverse - it is me that has wanted to stay out of fear, rejection, ect. - whereas my my wife would not have the issues with leaving that I would.

Above all else...we must be saved.

Praying for you!

Good post!