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Originally Posted by Margies3
Raising a child is about discipline - NOT punishment. We discipline so that they will learn a better way to behave or do things. Discipline is for THEIR benefit - it helps THEM grow. Punishment is a release for the person who is administering the punishment. It gets out their anger. Unfortunately, it releases it onto the person who is the smaller and more vulnerable. Discipline says, "I'm here to help you learn". Punishment says, "I'm bigger and tougher and you have to do what I tell you because of that!"
If you have to discipline with physical punishment (especially after your children are older and there are more effective means) than maybe it's time to serious assess your parenting skills. If the only way that you can get a child to do what you tell them to do is to beat on them or choke them or hurt them in some other physical way, then you are not doing a very good job of communicating them the reasons WHY you are teaching them the lessons you hope to teach them.
We swatted little bottoms until our kids were about 5 or 6 years old. After that, there are much more effective means of discipline. Maybe not punishment. But definitely discipline.
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Actually, punishment says you did something wrong, that shouldn't have been done, and now you will pay the price.
Physical punshment mixed with discipline and teaching has done just great at producing decent humans for generations. Seems pretty clear to me that once physical punishment was taken away kids started turning into the disrespectful dirtbags we see all over the place today.
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