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Originally Posted by MissBrattified

I can't answer it from experience. We have three children, ages 16, 14 & 9. We have yet to deal with rebellious behavior from any of them. They normally get into trouble for sassing or talking back, and that's about the worst we've dealt with. Grounding, praying, serious conversations, reading scripture--so far, seems to have dealt with every problem just fine. We spanked them a few times--mostly when they were little. Being a more experienced parent now, I think we could have made it through even those years without spanking if I had known what I know now.

You could chalk that up to luck and say we are just blessed with good kids, but IMO, being patient, consistent, kind and Christlike produces children who are more likely to be obedient and respectful. Even parents who spank should do it with kindness and only in certain circumstances. Children can sense whether or not you are acting out of love for them and genuine care for their wellbeing--even if the discipline is harsh. Our pastor advises that all discipline should be for the good of the child, and never because the parent is embarrassed or angry. I completely agree with him. I consider that to be very wise advice.

What I can't ever wrap my brain around is this: Why would any parent WANT to spank a child, if there's a gentler alternative that actually works?



I'm not opposing those verses. However, they are OT and there are a lot of OT responses to sin and bad human behavior that we don't partake in. I'm not 100% opposed to corporal punishment, but I DO believe it should be reserved for deliberately rebellious behavior. Unfortunately, parents routinely use corporal punishment for childish or unwitting behavior, which I believe is damaging. Further, no one should ever INJURE their child or do anything that could potentially rob them of life (case in point: choking). That isn't spanking; that's abuse.



Growing up in church, I've seen a LOT of idiots that follow that plan. Their FIRST response is to slap, hit or beat. And they are usually lauded by other likeminded parents.

count your self lucky

i have 2 kids with adhd and one that may have bi-polar.. just step into my world