Headship in the Home

[Chateau d'If]

I have watched controlling pastors, like this, fall by the wayside over the years. Almost all of them have a sin issue or a psychological issue.

[AreYouReady?]

Originally Posted by Cindy

Some wives with unsaved husbands get verbally abused and even beaten if they stay too long at church. Of course these women get the same for a multitude of other reasons. Do we tell them not to go to church? It's not always the Pastor's fault that people can't or won't take responsibility for themselves.

That is quite true Cindy. The pastor should be spiritual enough, if he knows a situation, to allow the wife to quietly get up and leave without feeling like she is usurping his authority.

[AreYouReady?]

Originally Posted by Aquila

The question that arises is... what defiles a marriage bed?

Lingerie
Varied Coitus Positioning
Lotions
Aides
Being rough
How to Guides
Baby talk
Dirty talk
Name calling
Fantasies
Dress-Up Fantasy
Erotica

... and the list goes on and on.

I know pastors who have forbidden all of the above.
I know other pastors who have the attitude that anything that doesn't offend one's partner and aides in mutual enjoyment is acceptable and to be kept private.

Why should a couple's bedroom life even be a subject of any pastor's teaching?

No doubt, there are people who are not confident enough in trusting the Holy Ghost to guide them ...well...they just have to ask the pastor if "this or that is ok".

I know one woman who asked her pastor if doing a certain "something" is ok. I am too embarrassed about what she asked him to post it here.

There are some things that should be just between you and God.

[Aquila]

Originally Posted by AreYouReady?

Why should a couple's bedroom life even be a subject of any pastor's teaching?

No doubt, there are people who are not confident enough in trusting the Holy Ghost to guide them ...well...they just have to ask the pastor if "this or that is ok".

I know one woman who asked her pastor if doing a certain "something" is ok. I am too embarrassed about what she asked him to post it here.

There are some things that should be just between you and God.

Amen. Personally, I think if something is mutually enjoyed and doesn't violate the conscience of one's mate, they should have the freedom to revel in their passion.

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by Angel48

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't your Pastor supposed to be your spiritual guide? The very words spoken during the wedding ceremony say "What God has brought together, let no MAN put asunder"

The pastor is only a man- even if an anointed one. He has no business discussing those issues or dictating a schedule for sex. Sounds like he has some personal demons IMO ....

Be ok if he is increasing the schedule.

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by Aquila

The question that arises is... what defiles a marriage bed?

Lingerie
Varied Coitus Positioning
Lotions
Aides
Being rough
How to Guides
Baby talk
Dirty talk
Name calling
Fantasies
Dress-Up Fantasy
Erotica

... and the list goes on and on.

I know pastors who have forbidden all of the above.
I know other pastors who have the attitude that anything that doesn't offend one's partner and aides in mutual enjoyment is acceptable and to be kept private.

Somethings are based off inordinate affection. should not intimacy be an expression of love? how does fantasizing she's the nurse accomplish that? Is this where house church leads to?

j/k on the house church. I have no problem with it.

[Rudy]

Has the thought of reporting cultish overseers to organizational leadership or elders a possibility?

[Aquila]

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

Somethings are based off inordinate affection. should not intimacy be an expression of love? how does fantasizing she's the nurse accomplish that? Is this where house church leads to?

j/k on the house church. I have no problem with it.

lol

Hey, I know what you're saying. I heard of a pastor who fell and sprained (or broke) his ankle one night when he and his wife were playing. When the medics arrived, he was dressed as Superman and had fallen off a chair in the bedroom. LOL

Love is an interesting thing. For some, being open about that "certain something" that drives them crazy is something they could only talk about, share, and truly enjoy with someone they love. If a loving wife knew this about her husband and came into the room wearing a nurse's outfit saying, "Hello, I'm Suzan, I'll be your nurse for this evening." with a playful wink... maybe that should be left between the two of them. lol