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Originally Posted by Jay
No, I have no problem with feeding in public, but I do happen to be most at ease when every one at table is appropriately covered (which can be done even during the feeding time, which is what led to this whole discussion anyway).
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And my point is that how covered/not covered a woman is/is not during breast feeding is nobody's business but her own and her infants. If for some reason you or any other man/woman can not keep from sexualizing the feeding of an infant, or have to act like a breast was put on a woman's chest by God only to tempt men, etc. then that is YOUR problem.
I feel like you have one of three choices: 1. change your view and recognize that breasts were actually MADE for feeding babies and that you have a socially influenced response to them caused by them always being covered by decent women and peek-a-boo displayed by morally loose women in your social circle and only ever fully exposed by whores, because that is how MEN decided it should be...OR 2. Remove yourself from any situation where a woman is feeding a baby before you even give a hint of expressing your disapproval at her showing her breasts if that should happen during said feeding. OR 3. Go on in your ignorance and blame women for your personal hang-ups (after all that is how most men handle it, right?) and keep perpetuating the myth that women who show their breasts during BREAST feeding are somehow trying to tempt men in to sin.
I am not knocking you personally Jay, you seem like a great guy who will consider this and become a greater guy because of it. It's a common issue as evidenced by others who have said that they are not comfortable with women feeding their babies.
My stake in this is simple. I do not want to ever see another mom go through what I did while nursing my babies. I spent many of my first couple of babies feedings in standing in only marginally clean public restrooms, while my friends ate a nice meal out, In freezing cold and burning hot cars, in back bedrooms of family members homes. My family (INLAWS) was hugely disapproving of my nursing which was considered low class and maybe even dirty. I was publicly shamed and even the medical community was not on my side since at the time infant formula was considered superior to breast milk. By baby 3 I became a militant La Leche League supporter who would feed anywhere and could have cared less if anyone found it shocking. Neither way was healthy though and new moms have plenty of other doubts and insecurities that we can do little to help.
This is one area where we can be supportive and let them know that we are not offended. Love, understanding and support for Christian sisters by Christian brothers is a needful thing. Women weary of being considered seductresses only designed to lead men astray and it makes them tire of the church where there seem to be more of those hangups and undeserved labels.
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