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Originally Posted by Michael Phelps
I disagree with your last statement, anyone who leaves a church, quits a job, gets a divorce, etc. owes it to the other party to talk to them, no matter what.
And, I don't think finding compassion is even a variable here, it's a non-issue. I wouldn't go to the pastor looking for compassion, I don't need it....I would go to him to explain my viewpoint and be honest with him as to why I was leaving, so he would know, and I would know, and that way if we ran into each other in the store sometime, there wouldn't be as much of an awkward moment.
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I think in some instances people need to talk to the pastor and in some, they just know in their hearts that any conversation is not going to end up well and they should just quietly move on. Sometimes having a conversation, especially if you have tried numerous times in the past that have gone nowhere, it is just time to move on. Only the person intending to have said conversation can determine whether or not that is the case. I think the main question is whether or not the pastor has been respectful and listened to her viewpoint in the past when she has tried to converse. In that case, I would say, yes, have that conversation. But if, in the past, she has left his office and bawled her eyes out, there is no need to put herself through that.
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