Maybe this will help you feel better about children (or anyone) in hell:
"Can the believing husband in Heaven be happy with his unbelieving wife in Hell? Can the believing father in Heaven be happy with his unbelieving children in Hell? Can the loving wife in Heaven be happy with her unbelieving husband in Hell? I tell you, yea! Such will be their sense of justice that it will increase rather than diminish their bliss."
-- Jonathan Edwards
Well, at least you can look forward to feeling happy about it, after you die.