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Originally Posted by ILG
Just an FYI, I completely understand that. I was married at 19 and got pregnant 3 months later! My husband was 18 and not the epitome of mature.  (understatement). For me, add to that that I just moved 800 miles away from home and got into the UPC, something my parents did not understand at all. I had no support from anyone, anywhere. It was really tough.
I immersed myself in UPC literature for intellectual pursuits and then when the internet came out, I really delved into what I had wanted all along.....iron sharpening iron, something I could not find in my home church (for nine years!). Before that, I taught Bible studies all the time....the accepted approach to exposing myself to people's ideas.
I was the co-pastor for 10 years but never called myself that. It was what my husband called me, and put on the sign. I never realized that as a conservative Christian mother and wife that I actually had a career......until we left, and there was this huge gaping hole. Because I just defined myself and a wife and mother. But in reality, I worked very hard all the time for the church. (And got paid nothing and it wasn't worth much on a resume when we left either.)
I wish I had been a better mother....much more gentle. My pastor said we were supposed to spank our kids and so I did....I should have been more gentle.
You seem like such a good Mom, Miss B. |
I got married at 29, my husband was 34. Set in our ways. I wanted to leave him every day for a long time.
He calmed down after I quit working. He always wants all the attention, not even liking my dog when I had it.
Sometimes I feel like his maid. That's my little resentment that rears it head every once in a while.
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