To tell or not to tell an adopted child

Originally Posted by B4 Nicaea

As an adopted child (by my dad), I always knew I was adopted and am thankful my parents never hid it from me. I was 25 before I started researching my biological father's side of the family. He had been killed in a tractor trailer accident after my dad had adopted me. Everyone wants to know a little about their family history and the adopted child needs to know as well. It WILL help them understand some of their tendencies and traits.

My dad and mother brought me to see my biological grandmother before she passed.

I knew of a similar situation--biological mother, adopted dad--where the child was approaching his teen years and the parents still hadn't told him. They have never found "a good time" to tell him.

Tell them when they are young. It's much easier. Furthermore, I have heard countless stories where an aunt, uncle, grandmother, older sibling, etc. "spilled the bean" before the parents found that "good time" to tell the child themselves.

Yes.....truth or as much as you can tell is important....my husband adopted our son .....when we were married, our son was 4 and we talked about it before hand....my hubby has been a very good father to him, when our son was a teen I called his bio dad for him and they meant...but didn't really build a relationship. My hubby is his DAD!