Why would a Pastor do this to me ?

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Originally Posted by ILG

There is a very weird view afoot that says that hurting people live to be criticized. I think that it is easier for some to believe that hurting people WANT to hurt, that way things don't have to be faced. There might be a few weirdos in the world that are sadomasochists, but I think generally they are few. On the other hand, there are a lot of ostriches.

It is a weird view and not one that I espouse. But let's face it, internet Forums really are not the place to air a lot of things that get aired.

Hurts are real. Only an idiot would deny that people have feelings and that those feelings do get hurt and damaged. I have yet to find one person on any Forum who says differently.

And we do know that hurting people hurt people. Perhaps some should take a step back when they have been hurt and asked themselve sif possibly the person that just hurt them did so because they were hurting? I can honestly say I have yet to see any of the "Healing and Comfort" crowd espouse that particlar line of thought. And lest we forget the words in red letter "70 times 7..." Just a thought.

I am all for helping people heal (as hard as that is for some of you to believe.) But please do not ask me to be incredibly sensitive to total strangers airing one side of the event and expect for everyone to lather them with the Balm of Gilead.

How many people, hurter or hurtee, do you know that ever tell the entire story when looking for consolation?