Why would a Pastor do this to me ?

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Originally Posted by ILG

There is a very weird view afoot that says that hurting people live to be criticized. I think that it is easier for some to believe that hurting people WANT to hurt, that way things don't have to be faced. There might be a few weirdos in the world that are sadomasochists, but I think generally they are few. On the other hand, there are a lot of ostriches.

As a person who has been hurt a time or two in life, I have found that when I spend too much time on my hurt, it leads to bitterness and that only destroys me.

Telling a person to get over it, is the most compassionate thing a person can do.


Way too many times you find a person who is worrying over their hurt like a dog with a bone. They aren’t helping themselves, they aren’t helping others, they aren’t preventing themselves or others from repeating the behavior that got them in a mess in the first place.

We all know that hurt people tend to repeat behavior that leads to the same kind of hurt.

They aren’t sadomasochists (sp) they don’t like living in misery. They hate it. But that is the trap of misery! It prevents you from finding your way clear! THIS is the reality of bitterness. It blinds a person from seeing themselves and others as they truly are. It is a self inflected trap that the trapped hates as much as those watching.

In my humble opinion that is why the bible spends so much time on forgiveness. if you don’t forgive those that have wronged you, you will never be whole. The bible doesn’t spend near as much time telling us to ask forgiveness when we have wronged, as it does telling us to forgive those that have wronged us!