If the OP had said:
I started going to this church that had really strong standards. I decided I didn’t like that and found another moderate church to go to and I am shocked that the cons have reacted like I’m backslid.
My reply would have been “don’t worry about them, move ahead and find the place in God that you are comfortable with”
BUT
The OP said “I have long had leadership positions in my Conservative church”
You people don’t see the difference here? Leaders understand the nature of the people they lead.
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