Why am I labeled backslid and unusable by God

[mizpeh]

Originally Posted by Jeffrey

His shock is how they are treating him.

Jeff, this person has been in leadership in a church that teaches standards. That means that he was in a position to teach standards. Possibly that he may have had to sign a paper that he will adhere to these standards. Probably heard that those women who cut their hair or wear pants are out of the will of God and are lost. Now he is leaving (or thinking of leaving) this conservative church. He has spoken to his pastor and even visited another church that doesn't teach standards are salvational. I find it somewhat suspect that he would be shocked that some of the folks from the church he was leaving would consider him backslidden.

And passing them off as not trivial and praying for his soul is a whole different level. Either way, maybe he never realized how nasty these sweet little people he called his family could be. Why does he have no room here for that? That's what this forum is saying. "Man up, own up, get out of here. We don't believe you. Surprised? How can you be. Shame on you." It's ridiculous.

It's not ridiculous. This is a person who is in leadership and is leaving because he/she disagrees with doctrine. A doctrine which is considered essential to salvation. What did he in all seriousness think would come of his decision to leave under these conditions?

Relating his emotions of how he is experiencing this should be expected by many of you as well. So try having patience and showing a little love before you make a rush to judgement

I'm not condoning those who call him backslidden but I'm not calling them "hooded cultists" either. Who 's the one rushing to judgement?

Maybe this person came here to get sympathy and a pat on the back but maybe it is a good thing to have constructive criticism so that he can analyze his motives and see clearly what a honet's nest he has stirred up in his church.