Sex Scenes - Page 48

ILG · #**471** 07-30-2010, 07:09 AM

So, here we have one man saying a 2 minute sex scene is no big deal and one saying that it's likely to throw a man over the edge!! Okay, guys, which is it???

OnTheFritz · #**472** 07-30-2010, 07:22 AM

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Originally Posted by ILG

So, here we have one man saying a 2 minute sex scene is no big deal and one saying that it's likely to throw a man over the edge!! Okay, guys, which is it???

I think it could be either depending on his current mindset at the time. Imagine that a man's sex drive is like a pressure cooker - if the pressure is built up pretty high, then a scene like this can have much more of an effect than if it's not. I'll just leave it at that

rgcraig · #**473** 07-30-2010, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by OnTheFritz

I think it could be either depending on his current mindset at the time. Imagine that a man's sex drive is like a pressure cooker - if the pressure is built up pretty high, then a scene like this can have much more of an effect than if it's not. I'll just leave it at that

That's a good way to put it. My son and his wife are going through a study at their church - "Love & Respect"......very good. They talked about how visual a man is and some of the wives didn't have a clue. One of the wives asked her husband, "so what do you think when you look at a woman?" The answer was like you said.......

"If I see an attractive woman and (for lack of a better term) "I'm satisfied at home" then it's no more than a glance and I don't think anything. However, if it's "been a while", then I might look with more sexual thoughts.

So.......woman need to understand that and do their part in the marriage too!

MissBrattified · #**474** 07-30-2010, 07:57 AM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

That's a good way to put it. My son and his wife are going through a study at their church - "Love & Respect"......very good. They talked about how visual a man is and some of the wives didn't have a clue. One of the wives asked her husband, "so what do you think when you look at a woman?" The answer was like you said.......

"If I see an attractive woman and (for lack of a better term) "I'm satisfied at home" then it's no more than a glance and I don't think anything. However, if it's "been a while", then I might look with more sexual thoughts.

So.......woman need to understand that and do their part in the marriage too!

Without placing too much blame for any person's choice to be unfaithful, I agree with this. Any person who commits adultery has been drawn away of their OWN lust, however a healthy sex life in a marriage is intended to protect against temptation according to I Corinthians 7:5. Men and women are BOTH instructed to render "due benevolence", and men need to be concerned with keeping their wives happy, too.

I think it was Dr. Phil that said something along the lines of, "If the sex is good, it's only 10% of the marriage, but if it's bad, it's 90%."

MissBrattified · #**475** 07-30-2010, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Right, it should be private. I think each individual may view a movie as more sexual or sensual according to their personal opinion. That is why I rarely recommend movies. I have had some recommended to us as decent, i.e., Zorro. It was a bit sensual, but it wasn't sexual. I define sexual as having elements of visible nudity. Well, the sword fight in the stable left her partially nude, although she remained covered. LOL! I hate when they add these things in, because the story line was great and didn't need the stable scene. It's always disappointing.

I loved the stable scene. It wasn't disappointing at all.

rgcraig · #**476** 07-30-2010, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by MissBrattified

Without placing too much blame for any person's choice to be unfaithful, I agree with this. Any person who commits adultery has been drawn away of their OWN lust, however a healthy sex life in a marriage is intended to protect against temptation according to I Corinthians 7:5. Men and women are BOTH instructed to render "due benevolence", and men need to be concerned with keeping their wives happy, too.

I think it was Dr. Phil that said something along the lines of, "If the sex is good, it's only 10% of the marriage, but if it's bad, it's 90%."

Good statement!

I think sometimes women just don't understand how STRONG that drive is in a man. And, it is a two-way street, so the onus isn't only on the woman, but what would help is if they understood.

crakjak · #**477** 07-30-2010, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by MissBrattified

I loved the stable scene. It wasn't disappointing at all.

WHY......Miss B, and we all thought you were more UC!!!!! j/k, lol

MissBrattified · #**478** 07-30-2010, 08:25 AM

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WHY......Miss B, and we all thought you were more UC!!!!! j/k, lol

Pressing-On · #**479** 07-30-2010, 08:38 AM

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Originally Posted by OnTheFritz

I think it could be either depending on his current mindset at the time. Imagine that a man's sex drive is like a pressure cooker - if the pressure is built up pretty high, then a scene like this can have much more of an effect than if it's not. I'll just leave it at that

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

That's a good way to put it. My son and his wife are going through a study at their church - "Love & Respect"......very good. They talked about how visual a man is and some of the wives didn't have a clue. One of the wives asked her husband, "so what do you think when you look at a woman?" The answer was like you said.......

"If I see an attractive woman and (for lack of a better term) "I'm satisfied at home" then it's no more than a glance and I don't think anything. However, if it's "been a while", then I might look with more sexual thoughts.

So.......woman need to understand that and do their part in the marriage too!

Agree with these posts!

Pressing-On · #**480** 07-30-2010, 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by MissBrattified

Without placing too much blame for any person's choice to be unfaithful, I agree with this. Any person who commits adultery has been drawn away of their OWN lust, however a healthy sex life in a marriage is intended to protect against temptation according to I Corinthians 7:5. Men and women are BOTH instructed to render "due benevolence", and men need to be concerned with keeping their wives happy, too.

I think it was Dr. Phil that said something along the lines of, "If the sex is good, it's only 10% of the marriage, but if it's bad, it's 90%."

I agree that we are drawn away by our "own" lust, however, I believe you could be in a marriage with a healthy sex life and still be drawn away by a strong attraction. That is still by our "own" lust, but not because the sex life was not good.