Sex Scenes

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Baron1710

He did. He instructed the older women to teach the younger to love their husbands.

Got it.

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

That's a good way to put it. My son and his wife are going through a study at their church - "Love & Respect"......very good. They talked about how visual a man is and some of the wives didn't have a clue. One of the wives asked her husband, "so what do you think when you look at a woman?" The answer was like you said.......

"If I see an attractive woman and (for lack of a better term) "I'm satisfied at home" then it's no more than a glance and I don't think anything. However, if it's "been a while", then I might look with more sexual thoughts.

So.......woman need to understand that and do their part in the marriage too!

Respectfully, I think this is where women miss it. I'm glad they are concerned about fulfilling needs, because that could be a big one. But you ask the women who have been cheated on. Not all were slothful wives who didn't "take care" of their husbands. It came down to bad habits, careless habits, and built-up fantasies that projected themselves into looks, then "innocent" flirting, then intense flirting and then.... well, that's just how it goes.

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I agree that we are drawn away by our "own" lust, however, I believe you could be in a marriage with a healthy sex life and still be drawn away by a strong attraction. That is still by our "own" lust, but not because the sex life was not good.

I agree.

And that "own lust" is a vulnerable mechanism in men that can either be fed or starved.

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by whoami

I guess it depends on the situation for me. Is the scene between a husband and wife, and is it relevant to the story (and is the story itself good). While I wouldn't watch XXX, a sensual scene in a good story doesn't bother me. Also, if I'm watching a movie it's usually with my husband, so...

I agree with what someone else said (too lazy to go back and find the quote, think it was Baron) about nudity in a movie like Schindler's List being different from the nudity in Striptease.

When it comes to what I allow my child to watch... that's a MUCH different story. lol

Edited to add: I haven't read all the replies, I was responding to the first post. heh

Why would be watching two people having sex change if I somehow received knowledge that the two were married or two consenting singles? How does that affect the response for us?

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by TJJJ

I think it is interesting here that not much Scripture is being thrown into this thread. I know, I know,... why complicate the issue with the Word of God.

Job 31:1 I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?

1Jn 2:16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.

2Pe 2:12 But these, as natural brute beasts, made to be taken and destroyed, speak evil of the things that they understand not; and shall utterly perish in their own corruption;
2Pe 2:13 And shall receive the reward of unrighteousness, as they that count it pleasure to riot in the day time. Spots they are and blemishes, sporting themselves with their own deceivings while they feast with you;
2Pe 2:14 Having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls: an heart they have exercised with covetous practices; cursed children:
2Pe 2:15 Which have forsaken the right way, and are gone astray, following the way of Balaam the son of Bosor, who loved the wages of unrighteousness;
2Pe 2:16 But was rebuked for his iniquity: the dumb ass speaking with man's voice forbad the madness of the prophet.
2Pe 2:17 These are wells without water, clouds that are carried with a tempest; to whom the mist of darkness is reserved for ever.

Sorry folks, but if you view that stuff on your favorite tv shows you are in sin.

First, you aren't the first to bring up scripture.
Second, this is a discussion, not necessarily a sermon. But I'm glad you can come in and set us all straight.
Third, the phrase "having eyes full of adultery" is an expression. I find your interpretation of this puzzling.

[OnTheFritz]

Originally Posted by Socialite

First, you aren't the first to bring up scripture.
Second, this is a discussion, not necessarily a sermon. But I'm glad you can come in and set us all straight.
Third, the phrase "having eyes full of adultery" is an expression. I find your interpretation of this puzzling.

Well said.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Socialite

Respectfully, I think this is where women miss it. I'm glad they are concerned about fulfilling needs, because that could be a big one. But you ask the women who have been cheated on. Not all were slothful wives who didn't "take care" of their husbands. It came down to bad habits, careless habits, and built-up fantasies that projected themselves into looks, then "innocent" flirting, then intense flirting and then.... well, that's just how it goes.

Don't have to - - I was one of those. You can't change addiction.

I don't believe I ever said "all".......as you said, this is a discussion. I was addressing the wives that seem to feel like that part of their marriage is a chore - - they need to wise up.

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by Baron1710

My point was that he did indeed tell women to love their husbands, and they need instruction or else teaching them doesn't make any sense at all.

And in mutual submission men must submit to their wives just as much as wives must submit to their husbands.

Husbands must submit to their wives?? where you that from?

[Baron1710]

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

Husbands must submit to their wives?? where you that from?

Back up a few posts and read real slow, you will find it.

[Falla39]

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

Husbands must submit to their wives?? where you that from?

Eph.5:21
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.