cant and wont speak for my pastor or the lord Jesus, but i would need more info to pass on my thoughts, not gonna happen, dt
You said "it" is spiritual adultery. What "it" were you referring to? I figured you meant the email exchange.
Whatever "it" means (no Clinton jokes, please! ), you said it was the same as "physical adultery". Jesus allowed that as grounds for divorce. Just sayin'.
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Hebrews 13:23 Know ye that our brother Timothy is set at liberty
I've read AFF for several months and come now with a question to help my friend.
The friend and her husband are both Christians, UPC backgrounds. My friend's husband left his e-mail page open and she noticed several e-mails from him and another person, and read them. Turned out, the person was an ex-girlfriend of her husband's (one he had slept with). The ex-girlfriend had joined a group called "Classmates" because the reunion of their graduating class was coming up, and she saw my friend's husband was a member and contacted him.
Several e-mails went back and forth between my friend's husband and his ex-girlfriend. In one of the e-mails, my friend's husband said to his ex-girlfriend that she had been remarkable when he knew her, and felt she was probably even more amazing today. My friend talked about this with her husband, and he tried to downplay it, and said she was over-reacting.
Long story short, they've been talking about this entire situation. My friend feels her husband shouldn't stay in touch with this woman, or with other ex-girlfriends. She feels it's borderline emotional adultery. Her husband says he doesn't see any harm in it.
She wants to know why a man (especially one who is a Christian) would stay in touch with a former girlfriend (especially one he slept with). She is also wondering how other husbands and wives feel about this?
The bold part is what I would have a problem with. It sounds as if the husband was flirting. imo
I have talked to my ex's online and we have basically asked how each other is doing. We have never talked about the past. The husband knew better than to make such a comment. What was his point? I wouldn't want an ex telling me that. I would feel very uncomfortable. jmho
I've read AFF for several months and come now with a question to help my friend.
The friend and her husband are both Christians, UPC backgrounds. My friend's husband left his e-mail page open and she noticed several e-mails from him and another person, and read them. Turned out, the person was an ex-girlfriend of her husband's (one he had slept with). The ex-girlfriend had joined a group called "Classmates" because the reunion of their graduating class was coming up, and she saw my friend's husband was a member and contacted him.
Several e-mails went back and forth between my friend's husband and his ex-girlfriend. In one of the e-mails, my friend's husband said to his ex-girlfriend that she had been remarkable when he knew her, and felt she was probably even more amazing today. My friend talked about this with her husband, and he tried to downplay it, and said she was over-reacting.
Long story short, they've been talking about this entire situation. My friend feels her husband shouldn't stay in touch with this woman, or with other ex-girlfriends. She feels it's borderline emotional adultery. Her husband says he doesn't see any harm in it.
She wants to know why a man (especially one who is a Christian) would stay in touch with a former girlfriend (especially one he slept with). She is also wondering how other husbands and wives feel about this?
The above comment would not be so bad if he was refering to her work as a soulwinner or missionary.....but if it was in regards to her, dare I say, missionary position, then he is just a dog.
Either way she needs to put him on a short leash.
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God has lavished his love upon me.
Whether or not it's grounds for divorce is up to the offended parties, but it is most definitely immoral and inappropriate.
Jesus certainly had an opinion about it.
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
I've read AFF for several months and come now with a question to help my friend.
The friend and her husband are both Christians, UPC backgrounds. My friend's husband left his e-mail page open and she noticed several e-mails from him and another person, and read them. Turned out, the person was an ex-girlfriend of her husband's (one he had slept with). The ex-girlfriend had joined a group called "Classmates" because the reunion of their graduating class was coming up, and she saw my friend's husband was a member and contacted him.
Several e-mails went back and forth between my friend's husband and his ex-girlfriend. In one of the e-mails, my friend's husband said to his ex-girlfriend that she had been remarkable when he knew her, and felt she was probably even more amazing today. My friend talked about this with her husband, and he tried to downplay it, and said she was over-reacting.
Long story short, they've been talking about this entire situation. My friend feels her husband shouldn't stay in touch with this woman, or with other ex-girlfriends. She feels it's borderline emotional adultery. Her husband says he doesn't see any harm in it.
She wants to know why a man (especially one who is a Christian) would stay in touch with a former girlfriend (especially one he slept with). She is also wondering how other husbands and wives feel about this?
Wife has a legitimate complaint. I seriously doubt intentions are pure and holy.
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Today pull up the little weeds,
The sinful thoughts subdue,
Or they will take the reins themselves
And someday master you. --Anon.
The most deadly sins do not leap upon us, they creep up on us.
Could it be that Jesus was trying to get the message across that from the heart/mind proceed the actions? You ain't gonna commit adultery if you don't think about it, plan it and harbor it in your heart.
Where do strong desires/lusts come from? The thought process. If ones thoughts are clean ones action will be clean.
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Psa 119:165 (KJV) 165 Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.
"Do not believe everthing you read on the internet" - Abe Lincoln
), you said it was the same as "physical adultery". Jesus allowed that as grounds for divorce. Just sayin'. 
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