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Originally Posted by Evenuntodeath
I'm single(female).
I think a common misconception with singles is that loneliness and lust are the only struggles a single has to deal with. This misunderstanding causes huge problems in ministering to singles and one of the reasons why the church has such issues with retaining singles.
I talk much right now, but I will come back later to elaborate.
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I have already discovered that it often seems like the church assumes that a Christian single is unappy and MUST find a mate. However, many Christian singles are perfectly happy being single. The church often makes them feel incomplete and contributes to the feelings of loneliness or sense of "not fitting in" when it does this.
However, I'm feeling that a person can be perfectly happy and content being single. Maybe it's just my age catching up with me. However, I can see feeling lonely at times. But loneliness can be remedied by surrounding yourself with good godly friends, much prayer, being involved in serving the church and others. Even "going out" to socialize with wisdom. I can also see having sexual feelings and not knowing how to relieve them without a sense of shame or condemnation. It's been my personal experience that these feelings don't necessarily go away with cold showers, prayer, and joining a softball league. What are the bounderies, what is allowed in the eyes of God for a single Christian with sexual needs? I'm sure many single Christians have struggled with these questions since ancient times.
I was talking to an elder about this and he said, "Draw near to God and be prayerful. You have to talk to God and allow the Spirit to direct you in some personal matters and let know man condemn you. It's between you and your Lord."
Is there any wisdom in that?
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