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Originally Posted by Berkeley
Sis Wenona,
Not to change the topic, but I heard that the 'down low' is very common in the black community, and the men justify it because they are still with their wives or girlfriends.
Why do you think they would find it an acceptable practice, and yet not label themselves as gay or bisexual?
-berk
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In my opinion, it is all about coverup and being in denial. Most black men are not in touch with their feelings.
For a man to be married, or appear to be so, to the world or church, to a woman but he is having relations with another man...
That man doesn't want to come to terms with what he is dealing with. I hate to make this a black or white issue, but black men I feel are masters of being in denial about a lot of things.
If a black boy grows up having an attraction to other boys, he'll be called names and beat up. So in order to avoid this, he puts on this show for his boys.
But the attraction is still there...and sooner or later the opportunity to 'explore' will present itself.
He enjoys it a little too much and this disturbs him. So he gotta put on more of a front. In the black community, gays still get beat up. So when these boys 'grow up,' they think if they put up the front, don't admit to the attraction/perversion, and try to hide or cover it up, then it would go away.
Especially if they marry what they term a 'freak' or a very attractive, sexy lady. They think she can turn him around, if you know what I mean.
But deliverance doesn't come from being with a freak....
Deliverance first comes when you are ready to deal and tell the truth. Not when you cover up sin.
And they think it is okay to cover up and live a lie because it repulses and excites them all at the same time. And they know that in some circles they will get jacked/beat up. Not to mention some women I know will physically hurt if someone went down low on them.
Mix all that up with church leadership and you got yourself a hot mess!
And all the more reason for a down low brother to remain just that....down low.....
It is a sad state to be in if you ask me.
I thank God for deliverance!
Also...because so many of our men are incarcerated. Men raping men is always happening in jail. They spread HIV/AIDS around to each other then come out and either keep up relations with other men-on the down low-or hook up with a naive woman who finds out that he has given her the virus....
So I think the rate of our incarceration has something to do with the growth of this phenomena....again, my personal opinion....
Love
Sis Wenona
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